It’s been around a month since I started questioning my gender. I’m really confused on all of this, seeing a therapist would help but that’s not an option for me at the moment (don’t want to go into details about that here). Biggest source of confusion for me is the fact that there are some strong signs that I’m trans but at the same time I don’t feel like a woman (nor anything othet than a man). Does this happen to trans women before egg crack or any form of transitioning? This question is a huge roadblock for me at the moment in terms of questioning, it feels like I won’t get anywhere with this without finding amswer to it. It probably won’t be final answer to everything but even if I’m trans transitioning would’t be safe for 4-5 years so I have enough time to explore my identity.

Edit: Thank you all for responding, it’s really helpful. Now I’m a bit more sure that I’m trans but I’ll try to experiment in a safe way until I’m able to talk with therapist about this.

  • WillStealYourUsernameEnglish
    30•3 months ago

    I found it very helpful to stop worrying about labels and words. They are nice for getting a feel for the possibilities and to convey ideas to others, but at the end of the day they will always be imprecise and lacking.

    Feeling like you don’t fit into the gender binary is pretty common among trans people, and plenty of cis people rebel against it as well, so don’t worry about whether or not you are an archetypical trans or cis person or whatever.

    The only thing you need to ask yourself is “is there some other way of being that would make me happier/more comfortable?”
    Maybe you want to change how you dress and present yourself?
    Maybe you want to act and carry yourself somewhat differently?
    Maybe you want to change your name or your pronouns?
    Maybe you want to try makeup, shaving, or doing something dfiferent with your hair?
    Maybe you feel your brain would work better with different hormones, or that your body isn’t quite to your liking?

    For some people mentally exploring their identity is enough.

    Try anything you suspect might spark some joy, and don’t worry about anything else. I realize not all of these things are equally easy to test out depending on your circumstances :(

    Also check out the gender dysphoria bible in the sidebar if you haven’t already, It’s a very good read.

    Best of luck to you on your journey! <3