For me, it was by maintaining a conscious awareness that it was the consequence of growing up in a transphobic society.

People aren’t born hating trans people, they learn it. And that includes trans people themselves.

Unfortunately, realising that it’s learned doesn’t magically make it go away. You can’t just erase a lifetime of indoctrination by wishing it away, but what it did for me, was it let me reframe it. It let me understand that the things I felt were real, but also learned, and I can learn a different way of thinking about myself if I give myself time.