Remember, you’re always worth more than a fetish <3

  • Chloë (she/her)
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    1 个月前

    Maybe I’m ignorant but what if they’re a chaser and you date them? Like as long as they love you it’s ok right? Maybe I’m terminally lonely but, if someone was to take interest in me I’d love it…

    • TotallynotJessicaOPM
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      1 个月前

      It’s like any person from a minoritized group dating a person who views them as a fetish object. They don’t view you as a unique individual, only as a physical embodiment of something they find sexy. Even for a casual hookup, they might not respect boundaries or be interested in making you feel good. If they’re actually a good partner, it’s because they care about you as a person.

      The real problem with chasers isn’t them having a thing for trans people, but being incapable of humanizing you beyond that identity. That kind of partner will never give you a good time

      • regdog@lemmy.world
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        14 天前

        They don’t view you as a unique individual, only as a physical embodiment of something they find sexy.

        So it’s not so different from heterosexual dating after all 😃

        • TotallynotJessicaOPM
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          14 天前

          I mean, it usually is heterosexual, with trans girls getting chased by men