Just finished catching up with your kickass women posts, which I thoroughly enjoyed. Which made me want to circle back to this. I keep thinking about this post because it’s been bugging me a little that I forgot to respond about your photo essays in my original reply.

I don’t actually use Pixelfed (it’s the Fediverse version of Instagram right?) and it acts a little funky in Firefox Android but if there’s a decent app, I might give things a proper look there. I’m definitely a fan of your writings. And I’ve been missing interesting stuff like this in my life.

Reminds me of the intro to one of the WASP albums where the announcer is doing a big top circus schtick and welcoming everyone to the show. And he says “boys and girls and wild ones of all ages.”

lose control of the information

Honestly that is an amazing way of putting it. And I think that pretty accurately describes how I feel about the big ‘coming out’ event. I would like people to know for the sake of my own freedom but also, I kinda like having my own secret world where I don’t have to explain or justify anything to anyone.

It’s also why whenever this question has come up in the past, I’ll usually say that I want to move somewhere new first before making it any more obvious that I’m not just a non-conformist. So that anyone who knows the truth has only ever known the real me without the mask, and I don’t have to explain myself to family or people I’ve barely spoken to in a decade.

but i hate getting into arguments with those people later

For me it’s not so much the arguing that gets to me. In fact I stopped feeling like it’s a duty to respond to things that I don’t want to respond to a while ago. So if someone wants to argue some MAGA shit, I’ll probably just ignore. And if they’re too hard to ignore, I’ll probably just block.

What gets me is that it ends up making me a kinda bad person too. Feels good calling these people inbred idiots in the heat of the moment but really, I don’t want to be the kind of person that calls others inbred idiots. It makes me feel like a piece of shit later. Over all I think there’s probably better ways of expressing oneself than resorting to what is essentially calling people ‘retards’. Just not with those exact words. I’d rather be part of the solution than part of the problem.

https://piefed.social/feeds :p

Useful to refer to but kind of an awkward workaround if you’re not actually signed up on Piefed. I actually plan on signing up there some time, as an end user, they seem to constantly be working on great features that actual users can see and notice and I like that. Just waiting for some decent app choices for it.

but i avoid social interaction and i feel incredibly lonely (personal issues).

That’s pretty much me. If you look at my social media usage, you would think that I’m a talkative, confrontational person but in the real world, I spend most of my life smiling and waving. And waiting for the conversation to be done so that I can get back home lol.

Yeah of course it’s not all bad. Most people are here in good faith. And hopefully once these early waves of manly men are dealt with and blocked etc, it’ll get less and less and not so easy to notice all the removed comments (although you’ll probably never be 100% free of it).

Captain Planet’s enemies are now running the world and openly dismantling environmental protections like it’s a matter of pride to them. And half the people that grew up watching Captain Planet voted them in.

I don’t know if it’s just my imagination but I feel like I’ve noticed a couple of people around Lemmy in general over the last couple of weeks that aren’t here in good faith. That’s the thing with these right wing types. They took over Facebook and Twitter and turned them into dumps but that’s enough for them. They have to follow the rest of us to the spaces where we go to try and get away from them.

I’ve said this multiple times now but thank you (and Dandelion) for what you’re doing here. It’s a dirty job dealing with these assholes so that the rest of us don’t have to. And it seems like this community is definitely growing now. About a month ago, you were posting 99% of the content here and looking at it now, it’s busier than ever!

I have no idea what my father’s beliefs are or who he even really is but he doesn’t strike me as right wing. My mother is someone who would be accepting of other people but I’m not convinced that this acceptance would extent to me. My two older sisters who practically raised me would probably be accepting but still I’m scared of rejection in that regard.

Over all, if I had to break the news that I’m non-binary, first of all I’d probably have a bit of explaining to do of what non-binary even is in the first place. And I think they’d be accepting to my face but there would lots of phone calls and gossiping behind my back.

She’s certainly got her work cut out for her though lol. Scrolling through a couple of posts from the last few days, I see a LOT of ‘removed by moderator’ comments. It’s not really funny but it’s been kinda making me laugh anyway. I wonder how long it’ll take before people know about this community and get it.

He will help America view masculinity more “positively,”

By making it look like core parts of ‘masculinity’ revolve around hatred of the other, whether it’s women, LGBTQ+ people, people with a different skin colour or different religions. By welcoming in sex trafficker and rapist Andrew Tate. By making manly men look like complete chumps that vote against their own interests as long as they get to hate someone in the process.

Great job to Trump, Musk and all the other meat head influencers for making masculinity seem ‘positive’. If anything, they’ve actually just proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that ‘masculinity’ itself is a rapey, aggressive, bigoted shit show. Considering that ‘masculinity’ is represented by rapists and bigots currently, and that not all that many men are complaining about that.

I want to be less angry, or in lieu of that, be able to manage that anger better. I’m mostly talking about social media here because in the real world I tend to not discuss politics or news. But I’m tired of the anger and then cringing and feeling like an idiot over something I said later when I light up a joint. As therapeutic as it is shitting on MAGAs and conservatives, I don’t think it’s healthy for me, considering how I feel about it later.

But here’s the catch 22. I don’t want to block all news and politics communities either because I’d like to stay informed. This place really needs multicommunities, so that you can categorise and only look at certain things at certain times. Beyond that, I just need to spend more time lurking in communities where I know everyone is just as angry as me and for the same reasons but where they don’t speak like sailors. And maybe some of that level headedness will rub off on me.

All that said, I would also like to put a list of short term goals out there:

• Be less angry / hostile, be a nicer person
• Somehow come up with the funds to get an education in something
• Work on a Sonic fangame and maybe some free programming courses in my free time instead of just playing games and making lists
• Drop bad habits, pick up good habits

When I saw that you were looking for moderators, I just had a feeling that Dandelion would end up involved for some reason. She seems like a great person and also someone who I have multiple informative comments saved from, which means that she’s an active participant of the community, which is one of the best kinds of moderators you’ll get. So I think you made an excellent choice here and congrats to Dandelion.

1998, I was 12 years old lol. The '90s were peak South Africa from my perspective. When we were all still high on Mandela, before Jacob Zuma came along and killed every last bit of hope for the future. That beautiful scenery unfortunately usually only gets seen by tourists because the rest of us are too busy trying to put food on the table.

All I’ve seen of Australia was the inside of an airport on my way to New Zealand lol.

Same from here in South Africa. Reddit had me fooled that we were about to finally enter a period where this fucking orange painted clown isn’t stinking up the news with his shit filled diaper on a daily basis, after like 10 long years of it.

I was expecting the inbred hillbillies to still vote for Trump but I didn’t realise how many closeted inbred hillbillies there were in the USA.

Everyone is a liar and everything is fake news. The media reports something? Lies. AI says something? Lies. Your neighbour tries to tell you something? Lies. The whole world freaks out and tries to convince you to change your ways? Lies.

Everyone is a liar except for when they say something I agree with and don’t have to think too hard about. Everyone is a liar except for my little in group.

Haha I’ll believe it when I see it. Pretty sure he said something similar a couple of Stardew Valley updates ago. This seems to be his number one love and obsession and one of these days while working on Haunted Chocolatier again, he’s gonna think “hmmm that would actually go nicely in Stardew Valley” and start working on SV again.

Just FYI I’m not complaining or anything. I think it’s funny and relatable. But I’m not gonna hold my breath for this game until it’s actually out.

Were these comics always like this or have the staff all turned into manosphere dick heads over the years? Saw another one the other day where the whole punchline was basically “haha rape”. Used to enjoy occasionally seeing these in my Facebook feed another lifetime ago but a lot of what I’ve seen here on Lemmy so far has been pretty questionable.

The song “All I Want” was prominently featured in the game Crazy Taxi, I believe.

Sega Mega Drive for me. We had knock off NES consoles in my country with 100 in 1 cartridges but we just called those “TV games”. Nintendo never bothered with any non first world country back then, so pirates picked up the slack. I don’t think I even knew of the ‘Nintendo’ brand when I was a little kid until I started using the internet and collecting magazines.

But Sega wasn’t quite as stiff upper lip and exclusive as Nintendo and had no problem with lowering themselves and selling their goods to us plebs in the 3rd world. So Sega was the premium brand here and “TV games” were just cheap shit in comparison in my eyes.

We had a knock off NES when I was a little kid (called a Pegasus) but my first actual legit name brand console was the Sega Mega Drive.

Wish I still had it. When I was about 13, I went through a really dumb phase for about 1 month total where I decided I was too grown up for this stuff and I sold my Mega Drive and comics for enough money to buy one CD, probably of a band that I don’t even listen to anymore. Regret it to this day.

And not only do they not use any of their money to improve the world, they actually actively use it to buy up every media platform, prop up right wingers and make as many people suffer as possible. More than they already suffer that is, thanks to a system that allows these pieces of shit to amass enough wealth to last multiple lifetimes while others have to work two jobs and still not earn enough to live without hardship.