I really want to. But getting started in that is kind of like looking for a door in the castle walls.

God I want to

I’m so glad I can feel safe here. I love this place.

Thank you. Truly.

Honestly on board with this. 196 took up more of Blahaj than I liked and always had a weirdly dissonant feel to the rest of the instance. I’m not really a fan of 196 personally, though, so my opinion is colored by that.

That’s awful. I had no idea :(

I live in WA and I want this more than anything.

God, she was one of my favorite artists. This is really crushing to learn. It’s so counter to everything she seemed to stand for.

And fuck, Ampersand no longer feels like an empowering song about marriage.

Holy fuck he’s so spineless

This feels like the writing on the wall. When they won’t even pretend to support us anymore?

God that’s hot af

Nothing they said there seems unreasonable. They/them seems like a perfectly normal (and more importantly neutral) default way of referring to people. If I was in person with someone, and they started throwing a fit because I defaulted to they/them for them (which I usually do), I would assume they were a bigot who doesn’t understand pronouns.

Not saying that’s the case with these other people, but I believe there’s a reasonable limitation on how much you can expect strangers to assume/understand on first meeting.

Paradox of tolerance

I want to help. Do you have any advice? This has convinced me I have a moral imperative but I don’t even know where to start.

If you have the time, I strongly recommend Carrie Poppy’s talk on this subject. You may find it enlightening.

https://pca.st/episode/b8b7d820-0cbd-4902-8864-e6205097006d

Whether you do or not, I’m glad the book helped you! That’s genuinely wonderful. It does, however, posit a lot of disproven theories that can be very harmful when taken seriously. The Satanic Panic is the best possible example of this.

That book should not be taken seriously. Very much pseudoscience.

I work in healthcare, you’d be surprised how many people start to drastically improve with good hospice care. It’s more common than you’d expect

This made my night. What a well-written and kind product

“If someone tries to steal your ukelele, let them take it!”

Idk, retusing to date someone based on their race does seem pretty racist to me. I know it’s not the point of the post but like… It’s murky moral territory.

You can’t help who/what your attracted to, true. Even if it might be defined by subconscious prejudice, that might not necessarily be something you can change, totally. But having that conversation… It’s gonna be hurtful, yeah? I think if you have that kinda preference the only easy way to accommodate it is by you advertising it in a general way.

Which only really works for dating apps, the absolute worst way to meet people.

Also, not a big deal, but it’s best to put a space between ‘trans’ and 'men/‘women’. It’s an adjective. They are trans, they are men/women. ‘Transmen’ and ‘transwomen’ makes it seem like you’re designating them seperately.