• zea
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    11 months ago

    I wish I was as certain in my identity as you’re implying is normal. I’m also autistic, so that might be why I struggle with it.

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      11 months ago

      I think being uncertain is as normal as being certain. The message I was trying to get across however is that it’s an internal process and nobody can tell you you’re wrong. Obviously there is an internal struggle as well because identity is something so inherent to the human experience that when your identity is challenged in a serious way, there’s going to be some level of dissonance.

      Struggling is fine. You’re not abnormal, I promise. It’s just a process because questioning your own identity means you’re going against the social expectation of ‘normality’. Despite being on HRT myself, and ‘coming out’ to myself internally years before starting my transition, I still find myself having those thoughts of self-doubt.

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        11 months ago

        Well I started HRT yesterday, so let’s hope that makes me happy!

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          11 months ago

          Congrats! Hope everything goes great for you! Just remember: it’s a marathon, not a sprint.

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            1 month ago

            I’m going through some old posts in this community and it’s too bad no one replied to this anymore.

            So hereby… I’m happy to hear it worked out for you! :)