• Instantnudeln@feddit.deOP
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      11 months ago

      Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn’t work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it’s annoying that I never get anything done.

          • 𝓹𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼
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            11 months ago

            it’s hard work! I struggle with it myself, everyday

            here’s a secret, though: you’re good, actually, even if you don’t Do Thing. I will believe this for you, even if your brain won’t

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                11 months ago

                It’s might sound kinda silly but one thing that helped me be kinder to myself was thinking about how I treat others

                I’d never treat people I cared about how I was treating myself so trying to be as kind to myself as I was to others was the goal I set for myself

                And overtime it became easier and easier to be kind to myself about my short comings

                Yeah I may fail to do all the tasks I set out for myself today but I did accomplish somethings

                It may even be little things some days and other days it’s not a whole lot at all

                But the kinder I was to myself the more I found myself able to do the things I set out to do

                I still stumble some days but that’s okay

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                    11 months ago

                    I only wish I had learned it earlier in life

                    That would have helped me a lot over the years

                    So the next best thing is to help other people with it so that they don’t have to suffer as long as I did

                • Uiop@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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                  11 months ago

                  That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.

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        11 months ago

        I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that’s generally one of the first things that get recommended.

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      11 months ago

      Been trying it for thirty years, maybe another thirty will do the trick! Persistence is key!

      /s

      Someone please sedate me…