• Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    It’s not a men’s space but it’s a men’s topic. So yes, you’re imposing.

    And the problem is, it’s not just you with a one off comment. Most discussions, that’s perfectly fine. Come in, refute misinfo, leave. Great. No harm done.

    When men in neutral spaces bring up any problems they have, there are HORDES of people coming in wanting to talk about How Bad Women Have It. It downs out the initial conversation. And often there’s some of those people who go so far as saying men don’t have it bad at all, ever.

    And again, I can’t emphasize this enough: we don’t have safe spaces. This is the only type of place where we can actually talk about this kind of stuff.

    So, if you want to not be an asshole, you should take some time to acknowledge the central issue here. Just a couple of sentences. BEFORE being called out about it.

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      1 year ago

      Its not a men’s space. I have every right same as you to say something here. I am imposing on no one by doing so.

      People responded to me and I responded to them. That’s the nature of dialog on a platform like this.

      Its not a space exclusively for men. I was responding to misinformation. You should make or join spaces that are exclusively for and about men.

      • Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, and I have the right to call your mother a whore, but I don’t, because I’m not an asshole.

        “I have every right to be an asshole” is a terrible viewpoint.

        You should make or join spaces that are exclusively for and about men.

        I’ve explained the issues with that. It’s difficult.

        • LadyAutumn
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          1 year ago

          There are spaces that presently exist.

          I don’t even know how to respond to your first comment, considering I have done nothing comparable to that. I continue to be misrepresented by you and accused of things I haven’t done. I’m not going to engage with this further.