I recommend drugs:
- ✓ Cheap compared to other hobbies like travel or gambling or having a family
- ✓ Meet new real and not so real friends
- ✓ Can make your suffering aka life shorter
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I heard nutmeg extract it great
“Bored” pisses me off. There’s too much to do, to learn, to experience to be fucking bored. I mean, unless you’re stuck at work or some shit.
There may be too much to be bored, but there’s just the right amount and more to be habitually depressed!
Well, boredom is not depression.
Speaking from experience depression has the power to render everything you used to find passion and joy in utterly unenjoyable. It sucks, and you get bored, and then you feel bad that you are bored and not doing the things you are supposed to enjoy. Have some empathy for those of us struggling :)
OK. You are talking about depression. I am talking about boredom. They are not the same thing, though one may be symptomatic of the other. If you think your boredom is a result of depression, I suggest you seek help somewhere that’s not an online forum.
Actually that’s a pretty major and common symptom of depression.
Which, again, doesn’t mean they are the same thing.
I am bored and I have plenty to do, the bigger selection makes it impossible to choose and then I do not choose.
In the words of Neil Peart, “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”
Work on making a better one.
Good job Neil, you cured depression with one easy fix!
I don’t think anyone, particularly Neil were he still with us, would suggest that his observation is supposed to be a cure for depression.
Where was depression mentioned?
That’s the point isn’t it? If we’re unlucky much of our life might revolve around going to work and doing maintenance around going to work and sleeping. Now I agree that anyone in that position probably has a choice they could make to free up their life but it’s quite a feat of will power to do it. There are also people in this cycle that have started families and don’t have much freedom.
There are also people in this cycle that have started families and don’t have much freedom.
I’d argue that people with families have even fewer excuses for being bored.
There is but all of it takes MONEY!! and TIME!!!. And i don’t have enough alcohol around me to not be bored. Best I can do is video games(I’m lucky to have a laptop).
If you have a laptop that can play video games, there is so much else you can do. Not that there’s anything wrong with video games. Video games are awesome.
I can, learned to use Linux. Learning python now. But I was talking about real world things like camping, and going on trips, watching snowfall(I’ve never seen snowfall), going to the beach or the zoo. You can only spend so much time in the virtual world, but the real world takes money and time.
gaming is great (I usually play an hour or 2 a day) but break it up a bit. maybe do an online micro credential, you can normally find free short courses. learn a language (easy to do for free if you have internet and some time). learn a new skill. learn design so you can put the laptop to work. and every now and then, when gaming burns you out, learning is too much and you literally have no chance to do anything else, sit under a tree for a little bit. yes, even at night. it’ll help
I have ADHD, my time is fucked once I get into gaming.
Imagine having access to the Internet and say you are bored.
Life is absurd. Take drugs, make mistakes, explore, learn, love, create. Make peace with the absurd. Sit in it for a while and see what happens. The dude abides…
I’m bored
Well, go do something!
In this economy?
Papa always told me boredom is a choice.
Or a sign of depression. Either or. One or the other. Just those two things.
You’re supposed to find a passion or hobby that you can excel at in your spare time. Meanwhile, capitalism in the US has decided to make every effort to extract all possible time from you at bare minimum compensation so that you are too tired and too poor to ever figure out a hobby or passion you can effectively pursue.
Surprisingly, I’ve found the most fulfillment from raising and caring for my three-year-old daughter. I always feel immense pride when I’m tidying up the house and come abroad a pile of drawings or an arrangement not only of her toys, but whatever things she’s found of mine (ie; the Peewee Herman action figure I keep beside my PC). But as fulfilling as it is, children are also inadvertently vampires and drain you of nearly everything you have. So I have to take pleasure in other things as well, like reading fiction, playing games with my wife, and spending time in nature. What I really need is a good mushroom trip through the forest, but it’s been several years since I’ve been comfortable enough to step away from responsibility and parenthood to do something like that, even though it’s a wonderful tool to bring one’s self back to earth and get your brain firing again.
Highly recommend trying that if you’re in the same mental cycle as OP. Definitely don’t opt for children if your goal is fulfillment, though. You may gain something huge, but you’re also signing off on the other side of your life. It’s certainly not a good fit for everyone. You’d think this obvious advice, but a lot of people do just that and wind up miserable and resentful, and their kids in turn grow up with less love and respect than they could otherwise have.
My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.
I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
I’m coming up on 40 years old and 14 years with my wife. We’re pretty honest and open with people when they ask why we don’t have and don’t want kids. We have a nice house, good careers, and could easily afford it, but we just chose not to. The really scary thing is that I’ve had several friends candidly tell me they wish they never had kids. They love their kids more than anything, but they regret having them. I think our position makes it easier for people to confide in us and share those feelings, but I find that situation dreadful. Also, I realize that feelings change over time so they may feel differently now or in the future.
I have two daughters 7yrs and 7mths. No one should ever feel bad for not having kids. Especially if they don’t want them.
Your friends are probably just venting (hopefully), so you are hearing the worst of it. Personally, I could never imagine my life without my kids and even though that 7mth old was screaming for a few hours today I wouldn’t swap this life for a child free one. It’s just different paths and you questioning it probably means you are a good person. Introspection is hard.
My brains a bit fried from the screaming so hopefully this makes sense.
As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.
I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).
The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).
Our oldest (7) entered public school last year and my expectations for other parents lowered to a point that I never thought possible. I was worried she wouldn’t adjust well or would shut down, but nope the teachers gush to us about her constantly. I’m not patting myself on the back at all because it’s 90% my daughter being awesome and somehow having high emotional intelligence at her age. How proud I am is leaking out.
Shit parents do create shit kids though. The saying is good parents often create good kids but bad parents almost always make bad kids. For example the douche parents at my kid’s school created the kid that steals from the teacher constantly and is in the “trouble room” every day.
Sometimes good parents have terrible kids, too. Sociopaths are just born sometimes and not made.
The way we describe having a kid is that it’s the best/worst thing you’ll ever do.
I mean there is a chance you can do everything well and still end up with a shitstain of a human when having kids. Sociopaths and Narcissists sometimes just happen.
well no, you’re supposed to generate as much profit as possible for someone else at every moment. nothing is truly designed to help people or provide a good service anymore, at least not without hefty profit margins – as is their god given right. i mean its a business they hvae to do the number!!
Well, you know the old Greek saying:
“A society grows great when people plant trees whose fruit they will not enjoy, for the corporation will have other people pick it, package it, and sell it back to them all at a 150% profit margin.”
I’m sure thats Rule of Acquisition #240-something.
There is no point. At least, there’s no overarching design or plan behind your existence. Instinctively we are driven to survive, so the question is: what else?
While we exist, we have senses which can provide pleasure or pain, so the most selfish answer would be to seek pleasures and enjoy them while you can. The correlary being to minimize pain or suffering, which serves as a check on unrestrained pleasure.
I like to take this a step further and work not only to optimize my own pleasure, but the pleasure of others around me. Then guilt is no longer an issue because your pleasure is complementary to theirs. They benefit when you reduce their pain and vice versa.
I believe the original problem stems from artifically self-imposed limitations and expectations on what should be, rather than engaging with what is and imagining what could be.
Work all week, too tired to do something fun. Corporate profits unreasonably high and now I can’t afford to engage in activities. Individualistic, nuclear family, isolation because communes reduce profits. Breathing poisoned air, drinking contaminated water, eating trash, refined food. Lost in a maze of suburbs, battling long transit times, alone in a sea of cars. Everyone’s left for jobs, or busy working jobs, no time to meet new people.
What is, like, the point?
Do we sit in his emotional wasteland, producing for an other, alone and without the energy to do anything but work until we get sick and can’t afford healthcare / are told by doctors the elderly are not their priority as they’re no longer productive?
These are my thoughts every day right now, and I don’t know how to get out of that depression loop.
I’m about a year and a half in remission from cancer. I started a new career to better my work-life balance and take care of my health. I thought surviving would give me a rejuvinated outlook on life, and I would “enjoy the little things” more.
No. When does that start?
Instead, I wake up every day thinking, what is the point? Who am I living for if I don’t have the time, money, or resources to do anything that brings joy to my life.
Move to a new country. Make life work for you, not the opposite.
They don’t have enough time/energy/money to find fulfilling repast on the weekends and your advice is to leave the country?
Such sage advuce should only be dispensed by Paris Hilton; “Stop being poor!”
So easy.
I’ll admit, because of my Christian upbringing, I have begun to wonder if this is Hell. Just enough hope for you to know that it could be better, but no memory of anything but this. There’s enough people not suffering (or at least pretending not to) to give hope, but no ability to ever change it. Isolation, pain, monotony, and just enough joy for most people to keep marching onward until they die, hoping that eventually it will get better.
If this is a recurring thought I would highly suggest pointing you towards Buddhism. I highly recommend the book “in the face of fear” Buddhist wisdom for challenging times. It has writings from all sorts of intelligent people, and does a good job of explaining how to transform them into tools.
Get some damn hobbies! Does she just sit in a chair with a blank face while listening to podcasts? Auditory media is meant to supplement another activity no wonder shes so damm bored
That is a very odd take on auditory media, from my perspective. Do you not focus on music or podcasts you listen to? Are you always doing something else?
As with most things, it depends. I could listen to an audiobook while working out but not while programming. I could listen to instrumental music while reading a book, but I couldn’t focus with a vocal track included. Some podcasts might require you to listen to every word while others may only require you to feel the overall topic.
I can have music as “background noise” but podcasts no way, if I am not focusing on what someone else is communicating, what is the point?
Doing other things at the same time helps me focus on whatever I’m listening to.
I fidget a lot so it would be distracting to sit still and just listen.
Auditory media is meant to supplement another activity no wonder shes so damm bored
Casual listening is not the same thing as listening to a music as a hobby. Hobbyists like myself will listen to an album without doing anything else. It’s definitely not “meant” to be a secondary activity. No shade of that’s how you listen, though.
My dad says it’s so we can be best friends with some dead guy.
I briefly forgot that religion was a thing and was wondering wtf your dad meant by this.
Religion? I believe he’s talking about this guy Bernie. He’s super rad.
We don’t talk about that one weekend, dude.
Two weekends.
HUMAN BEINGS MAKE LIFE SO INTERESTING. DO YOU KNOW, THAT IN A UNIVERSE SO FULL OF WONDERS, THEY HAVE MANAGED TO INVENT BOREDOM.
Part of boredom is simply lacking direction and not knowing what to do/where to even start
Press escape key to check the objectives. Someone clearly didn’t complete the tutorial.
RTFM, right?
My tutorial went like this
Welcome to th
*smashes spacebar*
Press X t
*smashes spacebar*
Press e to
*smashes spacebar*
You can r (hold escape to exit tutor
My thought process during covid. I bought a motorcycle and basically can’t stay in one place anymore.
As Mrs. Draper says, boring people get bored.
Boredom is good, as long as you let your mind wander. If you fill it with social media and other low effort crap, then boredom is just time wasted.
Boredom and letting your mind wander will lead to something interesting.
so true. just go outside, no phone, and sit under a tree for an hour. you won’t feel bored after long, in fact you’ll probably feel great. I garuntee it
