I know you’re out there! If you’re part of /c/TransLater, make yourself heard!
Maybe some questions will help.
Tell us your name and where are you from? Maybe a bit about yourself
What do you enjoy spending your time on?
How have things been going as you navigate the combination of “Trans” and “Later” in your life?
What’s a question you have for other folk in the sub?
Hello everyone!
My name is Kate and I’m from New Zealand. I’m 46yo and pre everything. Still coming to terms with myself and in the process of coming out to friends. I don’t hate being a guy, but get so much gender euphoria being a woman.
I enjoy socialising & having a few drinks, doing bjj and mountain biking. Gotta do something to keep fit.
Things have gone way better than I expected. My wife and I have recently separated because of this, but she is very supportive anyway. Everyone that her and I have told, have been completely supportive and also the local trans community have been amazing. The “Later” part is odd I guess. I spent 44 years as a guy, so I wonder sometimes if I am trans or just curious. Like I feel I should have known years ago, so am I kidding myself. But then I play a scenario in my head - if my Dr told me I was a crossdresser and not transgender, how would I feel? And I found I would feel sad and disappointed I wasn’t a woman. Self doubt, argh.
I guess my question is: What is it about being a woman do you love the most?
For what it’s worth, I started at 41, and that was 7 years ago. We tend to start later at our age, because that’s what happens when you grew up in the transphobic environment we grew up in, with no visible role models or examples of people who had walked our path before us. Undoing a lifetime of that is a process that takes time. Even self acceptance doesn’t just remove decades of indoctrination. What it does is let you make a start on undoing it, which it sounds like you’re doing :)
I finally feel comfortable in my skin :)