Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe “team up” as groups or something?

And yeah polygamy is a thing but do you think it will catch on to “the upper class”?

  • June@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Polygamy Polygyny, in particular, is a largely religious institution. In no small part that’s due to the fact that polygamy polygyny is inherently patriarchal, and nearly all modern religions are too, so it makes sense that it would be found predominantly in religious communities and histories.

    Polyamory, however, is neither patriarchal or matriarchal. It is freedom for everyone involved to have relationships in any capacity they want, including women and other non-male gendered people to be with whoever they want. Patriarchal societies will never accept something that gives women that type of freedom and power over their own lives.

    Edit: I got some terminology wrong and thought polygamy was one man multiple women, but the term just refers to having multiple spouses. Polygyny is one man multiple women. Which def means I took the conversation down a weird hole.

      • lexi 🏳️‍⚧️ (she/they)@mstdn.ca
        2·
        1 year ago

        @neshura @June good job inventing a perceived victim status as if your target wasn’t directly responding to a comment about polygamy

        are you gonna apologise for your baseless attack, or just let it lie on the record without addressing any of the issues raised?

          • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
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            1 year ago

            it’s funny that you wrote like 5000 words based on a misreading.

            they said that polyamory is different from polygamy because non-males have more freedom in polyamory tyan in polygamy.

            you misread that to mean only women get that freedom. that is not true. everyone gets the freedom, but in polygamy men already had it, so op omitted it.

            try to spend more time understanding and less time ranting and raving. i sincerely mean this, and with empathy: something about this comment thread triggered you, and you might wanna think through it.

          • June@lemm.ee
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            1 year ago

            I brought up patriarchy because polygamy polygyny (one man, multiple wives) is inherently patriarchal. Same as polygyny polyandry (one woman many husbands) being matriarchal. While polyamory is genderless and everyone is free to pursue their own relationships.

            This isn’t a controversial take. I never excluded men from the equation, I simply pointed out that polyamory is different from polygamy in that women can have more than one partner as well, something that polygamy doesn’t allow.

            The rest of your comment here is word salad and idk what you’re getting at. But the basis of your offense is rooted in a my own misunderstanding of the conversation and terms being referred to.

            Edit: I got some terminology wrong and thought polygamy was one man multiple women, but the term just refers to having multiple spouses. Polygyny is one man multiple women. Which def means I took the conversation down a weird hole.

            • Dr. Quadragon ❌@mastodon.ml
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              1 year ago

              @June I’m sorry? but isn’t:

              polyandry = multiple male partners
              polygyny = multiple female partners
              polygamy = multiple whatever partners?

              Just so that we’re on the same page?

              (source: quick google search to verify that I’m not crazy)

              @neshura

              • June@lemm.ee
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                1 year ago

                Oh hey, I learned something, thank you. Not sure where I got my definitions from but I’d have sworn i had it right, but polygamy is just the practice of having multiple spouses, you’re right.

                I’d done a fair bit of research on it a while ago and either had bad info or bad memory. Thanks for the correction! I’ll go make edits and let that other person know I got the terminology wrong.

          • lexi 🏳️‍⚧️ (she/they)@mstdn.ca
            1·
            1 year ago

            @neshura
            words. i’m glad they bring you comfort in lieu of meaning

            the person who can’t see the patriarchy for the polygamy apparently believes monogamy is not about control of property

            many years of reflection and cringe ahead of you. good luck with that

      • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        Not that the constant mention of patriarchy in places it has no relevance wasn’t already a red flag.

        … you dont think polygamy is patriarchal?? or “the heavenly father”???

        I think the word just triggers you. you know men can participate in polyamory too right?