• Lyra_LycanEnglish
    49·
    4 天前

    This is the reason people shouldn’t be allowed to complain on behalf of a community they aren’t part of. They often cause issues and bs out of nothing.

    • Haui@discuss.tchncs.de
      23·
      4 天前

      I’d say people should not be allowed to complain on behalf of a community, period.

      We should normalize complaining about your own feelings being hurt, borders crossed or whatever.

      One reason we have this problem is because we tell people to suck it up all the time. People dont need to suck it up, you need to grow some empathy, john.

      • reev@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        24·
        4 天前

        Okay but some people might not be comfortable speaking out about it themselves. I don’t think I, a white guy, “shouldn’t be allowed to complain” if I hear a coworker use the N word, or using some terms that are extremely derogatory towards women. You could argue that’s complaining on behalf of a community, even one I’m not part of.

        I agree that we should normalize being more open with when borders are crossed but some people aren’t comfortable with that (probably because people have been jerks about it before). But those people might still be hurt by that kind of language.

        There’s a lot of nuance on this whole topic.

      • Kichae@lemmy.caEnglish
        2·
        3 天前

        This just boils down to “don’t disucuss social power dynamics” at some point, though, and that’s how social power dynamics remain unchallenged, and only ever evolve towards reinforcing the social hegemony.

        People need to be able to criticise others’ words and actions when they perpetuate injustice, regardless of whether they are a part of the affected minority, and this criticism should not be viewed through the lens of taking offence.

        One can criticise without being personally offended.

        • Possibly linux@lemmy.zipEnglish
          1·
          3 天前

          I think it boils down to avoiding broad language like all and always. When talking about Autism and Autism related struggles present it from your own personal view.

          “I have always struggled with X, maybe some of you can relate. Here is what helps me”

    • entwine413@lemm.ee
      15·
      4 天前

      Reminds me of all the white people who hated on Speedy Gonzales for being racist, but Mexicans loved him.

      • Sinaf@lemmy.worldEnglish
        10·
        4 天前

        but Mexicans loved him

        Yes, all Mexicans love Speedy Gonzales. It’s a little known fact that 27 years ago the Mexican government exiled every person who didn’t love Speedy Gonzalez. A lot of them settled in the Pittsburgh area and tried to rebuild their lives from scratch when back in nineteen ninety eight the undertaker threw mankind off hell in a cell and plummeted sixteen feet through an announcers table.

    • Possibly linux@lemmy.zipEnglish
      1·
      3 天前

      I think the problem is that Autism isn’t clearly defined. There are people who have Autism struggles but they don’t present in the traditional way. For instance, some of my family are very successful socially with lots of connections. The thing I realized later was that people can be a special interest. Lots of surface level connections with little in depth understanding. You can be Autistic and very high masking.

      I also think there is a ton of overlap between ADHD, Autism and other related conditions. I’m honestly not even sure that ADHD and Autism are to separate things.

  • kittenzrulz123
    14·
    4 天前

    I have been told by neurotypicals “you’re being ablist” so many times.

    • Possibly linux@lemmy.zipEnglish
      4·
      3 天前

      r/autism in a nutshell

      I don’t want to to negative but life is harder for Autistic people. Apparently saying that is Ablest

      • kittenzrulz123
        4·
        3 天前

        Absolutely, its not a “superpower” its suffering from many severe issues (in my case anxiety and depression).

  • Beldarofremulak@discuss.onlineEnglish
    19·
    4 天前

    It would be cool if the meaning of the things you say and do were decided by you but it’s unfortunately decided by the current emotional state of the viewer AND how quickly the spin gets put on. If you say “a bullies parents shouldn’t be executed” and the first 2 people to read your comment downvote you, vote momentum causes you to become wrong and a bullies parents actually should be executed. If someone says “she should be treated like the dog she is” and you point out dogs shouldn’t be treated poorly, you get downvote because the misworded comment was directed at a shitty politician and you have to downvote anything that isn’t lock step even if it’s against animal abuse.

    When we get the two buttons in front of us we all really should break our finger pushing the cleanse humanity button so hard.

    • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
      9·
      4 天前

      Uh, so you were making a thoughtful point about mob mentality and confirmation bias, with plausible examples and everything, and then a wild

      we all really should break our fingers pushing the cleanse humanity button so hard

      appeared.

      You good?

  • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
    11·
    4 天前

    Sir/Xer

    Tell me your secret coping skill. If it is more lame than being funny you have to leave.

    Sorry for being productive with my pain 🤷

    • Lexam@lemmy.worldOPMEnglish
      16·
      4 天前

      It’s being funny to the point that making jokes is basically a stim for me.

      • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
        11·
        4 天前

        The feeling of being “on” with jokes can’t be matched. Total stim.

        My curse is i also love making others uncomfortable. So when it starts, good fucking luck, im winning wherever it goes lmao

        • kubica@fedia.io
          6·
          4 天前

          I kinda envious actually, it’s some level of not giving a fuck that I can’t reach.

    • GreatWhiteBuffalo41@slrpnk.netEnglish
      3·
      4 天前

      Would you like to learn to fly? Would you like to see me try? Why are you running awaaaaaay…

      Well now I have that song stuck in my head again 😂😂