• el_abuelo@programming.dev
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    The other day a dude was using his phone on speaker in the gym. Just sat there on the machine casually having a conversation on the phone and not doing a whole lot of working out.

    I asked him if he could use the phone normally and made the “hand to face” gesture and he just mumbled a “yeah” and took it off speaker.

    Now if he had considered my request outlandish, presumably there would have been a little friction in this exchange? But no…he knew exactly what he was doing, why it was annoying, and immediately how to remedy it.

    Why the fuck are people using speakerphone instead of the God damn normal speaker to have their conversations? They know it’s annoying.

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    Oh hell no. If I’m stuck somewhere and they are having a speaker phone conversation I comment. I did this at the doctors office and the lady told me it was a private conversation and I told here she should have it in private.

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    I like to stand really close to them and then when they give you the “what?” Look or say anything, I tell them I’m just waiting to use the phone.

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    This is a pet peeve of mine. If you aren’t disabled use the damn phone as a phone and use FaceTime in private.

    I don’t want to hear about the latest drama your ex is involved in and who’s doing who to god knows what. I also don’t want to be in the background while you are standing in line FaceTiming someone and they comment on the person behind them on camera.

    And then the people who actually use the phone as a phone but have the most obnoxiously loud one-sided conversation.

    I may be slightly biased, I use public transportation and have to listen to this shit every day. I wear hearing aids so I hear everything at one which makes it even more fun.

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      It took a few years, but now unless it’s really important or she thinks I’m probably not on the bus, my wife now texts to ask if I’m able to talk. I hate people who do these things and I feel incredibly uncomfortable speaking on the phone when I’m on public transit.

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        Same here. I know my voice is loud. I have a paralyzed vocal cord and can’t talk quietly — only loud or louder. I also just generally hate talking on the phone 😆

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          My voice is fairly deep, so even when I’m speaking quietly it travels. Beyond not wanting to have everyone on the bus hearing about my business, it’s fucking rude…

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    I think some people just don’t realize it’s rude to have a speaker phone call in a public setting. I once had a complete stranger at a restaurant ask my friends and me to be quiet because the person on the other end of the phone kept hearing us.

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      This is the main character syndrom. People consider themselves the main character in this world and the others just npcs (non player characters, bystanders). Best way to tech them is a bucket of cold water (literally or figuratively).

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      Same with people who blast music in public. There’s a bike/pedestrian trail near me I use a lot and people are constantly riding or running while blasting the worst music imaginable to everyone nearby. Maybe someday I’ll build up the courage to tell them to shut the fuck up… or at least teach them what headphones are. Maybe I could buy a bunch of cheap ones and just chuck them at the heads of anyone who apparently needs them.

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        Headphones on a bike are illegal in my province. So I once bought a bluetooth speaker for my bike. I don’t really like imposing my music to anyone and tried to keep it at a minimum level but stills didn’t like it. So now I use bone conduction headphones. Unfortunately they are also in a grey area where they could also be illegal.

        In short, if you want to listen to music on a bike here, your only legal option is a speaker. Anything else is unsafe and could traumatize a poor car driver that hits a cyclist that didn’t hear them coming (according to the police here).

        Otherwise get a car and blast the music with the windows open like a normal safe person. or close the windows and don’t hear anything around, but this is much safer than having headphones while cycling, obviously.

        Same with walking or jogging with headphones. Are you out of your mind? Some poor car driver could hit reckless runners jumping in front of their car because they couldn’t hear it coming.

        No, society wants everyone not in a car to keep quiet and don’t ruin their silence, with all the soothing car noises, so it’s safer this way. No headphones on a bike, it’s not safe! You need to hear that car blasting music that’s coming at you.

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            Bah, sound quality is just okay. It’s fine for podcasts and electronic without bass, but it’s kind of annoying for some types of music.

            It works but… meh.

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              I should clarify they’re the best option when you need to be aware of your surroundings. Sounds quality isn’t going to win any awards on it’s own, but it’s good enough for their application.

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        There’s some shithead in my area that lugs around one of those large JBL party-size looking Bluetooth speakers and has a habit of sitting at the bus stop across the street from my apartment and blasting his shitty rap music for the whole fucking neighborhood to suffer. Always super awesome to finish a long night shift, crawl into bed, and be woken up to that shit a few hours later.

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        My favourite is people blasting shitty music from the speakers on their Harley’s, fucking double trouble

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      Had someone in a restaurant ask the manager if they could turn down the music playing, they were in a business zoom meeting.

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      Hey Adam, are you sure you weren’t just eating ass at the time? … I’m just joking about your username.

      I would have said hi to the person in the speakerphone and told them about my meal and introduced them to my friends and told them that everyone could hear their conversation in the restaurant.

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      I’m one of those people … I always thought, if it’s reasonable to have a conversation with someone physically there, at a reasonable talking volume, why does it matter if I’m doing the same on my phone?

      Obviously if it’s obnoxiously loud that’s a different story

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        Why would you want to use speakerphone anyway? Especially in a public place where they’d be harder to hear?

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        The sounds coming out of your phone are distorted by the speaker and the connection, and distortion can be painful to listen to

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    People have private conversations in public but, if I join in, I’m the crazy one~

    Like, – yes – those people will have to accept that people may overhear them while talking about their subject but this isn’t a new phenomenon. People have always done this.

    This is just the dynamic of public spaces.

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    Today I was annoyed by a man in his 30-40s that was talking on his phone like he was a reality soap star with speaker on full blast in a doctor’s waiting room.

    Then I remembered the most absurd moment on the tram some time ago when a two teen girls were talking to a third and the one holding the phone told her friend to go sit somewhere else because they wanted to talk in private. The second girl moves and the first one proceeds to have their private talk on speaker. In a tram full of people and her friend sitting a few seats away.

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    Are there any justifiable reasons that it’s okay to be on speakerphone in public?

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      I’m on a job that involves talking to people that also requires me to call HQ and have a conversation with them and the person I’m talking to

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        God… And then they lean in to listen to it Like it’s an alien rock whispering secrets to them.

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      Are there any justifiable reasons that it’s okay to be on speakerphone in public?

      I once saw this question asked on the other site, and there was at least one good response. It was from someone who used a hearing aid, and said that for whatever reason, using the phone normally next to their ear resulted in the audio being garbled and difficult to understand, but using the speaker held a few inches away was fine, so that’s how they preferred to use it.

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        That does make sense, though I think modern hearing aids actually have Bluetooth capabilities so that the conversation is right through the hearing aid itself. Kinda wild.

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      The only case I can think of is like you had to call 911 for an emergency and you want the people around you to also hear the dispatcher.

      For day to day stuff, not really.

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    I’m convinced people forgot that our huge handheld devices are supposed to still be mobile phones that you are supposed to put against your ear when you call someone.

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    Whenever I hear someone using speakerphone in public, it really annoys me. Often, I will join the conversation. When the party is subject, it’s an excellent time to remind them how fucking rude it is to use a speakerphone in public.

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    They are, by definition, not having a private conversation. It’s just parrots looking in a mirror. They genuinely think we are impressed by what they have to say. Source: grew up with a narcissist. He was wearing a Bluetooth earpiece 100% of the time until like 2020.

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    Make random jungle and peacock noises close to them. Nothing makes them want a more private conversation than the person on the other end saying that it sounds like they were lying about where they are. Sex moaning and sloppy liquid pulching sound effects optional depending on others nearby.