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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • I tell people I have a 24 hour SLA. I’ll respond to messages within 24 hours, barring circumstances like a trip to somewhere remote or illness. Likely sooner, but that’s a bonus. No one has ever complained.

    I just hate the feeling that someone could suddenly message me. I hate having to pull out my phone because a message has arrived and I have to respond. I hate having to look at it every few seconds when I am trying to do something else, because someone messaged me.

    There’s probably a nicer, more effective, way to say this, but: stop doing this. You don’t have to respond. You don’t even have to look. Put your phone on silent. Leave it in the other room.







  • I didn’t realize until adulthood that some households don’t really prioritize music. My parents were always playing and telling me about the music they grew up with (classic rock, because I’m old and they’re older)

    Every once in a while I’ll meet a peer who’s like “oh yeah we didn’t have a lot of records” and I’m like oh that checks out with you not knowing the velvet underground

    But I try not to be a jerk about people not knowing stuff, because no one needs that.




  • When I play an RPG (or RPG-like game), I want to know upfront: is this a storytelling kind of game, or a problem-solving kind of game? The rulesets that try to blend both often feel like they pick up the worst of both worlds, demanding players switch between two very different sorts of minds or risk spoiling the whole affair.

    This is an interesting point I’d thought about before but never articulated.

    I think it was part of why I didn’t gel with one of my old DND groups. They’d sometimes be faffing around doing “funny” stuff, but I mostly was sticking to the “use your resources wisely or perish” mode of DND.