Women are often taught assertive means bitch and/or unhinged. How easy do you find being assertive? Has this changed through your life?
Women are often taught assertive means bitch and/or unhinged. How easy do you find being assertive? Has this changed through your life?
It is hard Rebekah I used to be horrendous at it. We just aren’t taught or encouraged to do it, and there can be bad consequences when we do it. Do you know what lead to you struggling with it?
I think simply existing made it worse! And conflicting everything as a kid, just freeze up entirely.
It is really hard mate, women are less likely to play contact sports, have assertive role models or be encouraged to stand up for ourselves. Then our childhood experiences can make it even harder. It took a lot of counselling, practice and just getting older to get good at it.
Does knife-fighting and jiu-jitsu count as “contact sports”? 'Cause that’s what my dad taught me from my youth. 🤣
(Dad was not your normal father.)
But yes, it’s hard to find an assertive role model in life, which is why early in my career it was easy to walk all over me. All culture (pop or otherwise) around you insists you should be meek, forbearing, tolerant, and nurturing and that any woman who doesn’t fall into this model is a “pushy broad” or “bitch” or whatnot. It’s very hard to find any strong feminine role models that aren’t just “men with tits” on one end of the scale or “bitches who deserve a comeuppance” on the other.
Men with tits or women who deserve comeuppance is a good way of putting it!