if i have any sort of interest in anything, be it a tv show, motivation for a project, a collection, etc. even if i only mention it once, i’m suddenly obsessed.
i should just give up if my plan involves many steps.
i’ve been treated badly by a “friend” for years but i’m still tempted to stay due to having a trauma bond i’m trying to break off. i mentioned once what they said to me (which is what they said in a previous post) and one of my family members said i was obsessed with them and to “just not be upset”, “why was i so insecure”, “i wasn’t abused”, etc.
i can’t mention anything to this person without him making a comment and then he asks why i don’t talk to him
All due respect but your family sucks. I have a family who belittles my feelings and desires too and I’ve cut them out. You don’t have to cut them out completely, but definitely stop giving them power in your life. Research boundaries and ways to enforce them. This will also apply to your abusive friendship. Consider therapy and branching out for new friends (going to events and getting involved in your community is a great start). Best of luck!
I think it’s more urgent that you find someone to talk to about your family.
