I feel like I give help easily but I don’t feel ok asking. How do you become ok with asking for help? I have no idea what conversations that include this even sound like. In my mind I come across as begging and losing connection with the person or people I ask. How can I think about this differently?

Edit: a little more context, although this applies generally I think. I recently got surgery. I have enough help at home to get by, but it would be nice I suppose if a friend wanted to help out in some way too while I recover. I’m not exactly sure what kind of help that would entail, maybe cleaning or cooking or even just visiting. But I struggle with asking for help in even “normal” circumstances, like moving, or a major project, or even just emotional support.

  • kira_anantaOPEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Thank you! This was helpful, and I added context to the post as well. This is indeed help from friends. I’ll have to try thinking of it as a favor and see what that does to how likely I am to ask!

    • RagnarokOnline@reddthat.com
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      1 year ago

      Thanks for adding that extra context!

      I definitely think the “hey, can I ask you for a favor because recovering from this surgery is driving me nuts…?” is the way to go.

      Oftentimes people struggle to know how to help a friend when they’re in a vague kind of trouble like after a surgery.

      For instance, I’m not sure how I would help one of my friends if they had a major surgery. Maybe I’d send them a door dash gift card?