… I realize sure, some things are good, some aren’t, struggles are here, and I’m even not one of those having it the worst.

But I just wanted to write something down for all those of you that are younger : I can’t, sadly, know when or how it ends, or even if it will at all in certain cases, but you know all this self-criticism, self-flagellation, constant lack of self-confidence?

Well, there may be a time when it all ends. Completely, totally, entirely, and just like that, you realize you’re free from it, probably forever.

It doesn’t make everything ok, doesn’t heal everything and won’t change anything to your denied need for justice and anger against subservience or all the evils people, or you, live through.

But this whole thing about self harming, physically or psychologically? THIS may end. It ended for me like 6 or 7 years ago, probably to never come back. Nothing particular happened, you know. Stuff just healed. It took time but it did happen in the end.

And I dearly wish it will for you all too.

Cheers and take care.

  • proleEnglish
    16·
    7 days ago

    This is true… I think it comes down to self-actualization, which is something that can take decades, or never happen at all… But accepting yourself for who/what you are is a big step towards that.

    And in doing so, you learn to accept others for who they are.

    Except Nazis. Fuck Nazis.

  • tasankovasara@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    6·
    7 days ago

    Amen! 46 and happy to confirm, although for me the break point was at 30 when my first child was born. An earlier breakthru was around 27 when doing my second outing of zen meditation and realising that my thoughts are not me, but more like the wind on my face, they come and go.

    So my 5 euro-cents on this: become a parent or meditate to accelerate the process :)

  • Em Adespoton@lemmy.caEnglish
    23·
    7 days ago

    As someone older than you… you continue to toughen as you age. Remember that younger you who had surges of emotions about events and remember to stay sensitive. Caring about others and about yourself is important.

      • return2ozma@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        7 days ago

        Yes, I agree.

        I do take these though that they recommend as well as collagen peptides and Omega-3 fish oil. Thank you for sharing.

        • Teppichbrand@feddit.orgEnglish
          2·
          6 days ago

          You can ditch the fish oil and eat a hand full of walnut a week, or (my favorite) eat half a tea spoon of grinded flax seed a day. I love the taste of flax seeds!

              • double_quack@lemm.eeEnglish
                1·
                6 days ago

                Abstract

                (…) The purpose of the present review was to identify the known cardiovascular effects of flaxseed and alpha-linolenic acid (ALA) and, just as importantly, what is presently unknown.

                Conclusion

                In view of these data, it is possible to advocate a potential pleiotropic effect of ALA beyond the more conventional cholesterol-lowering actions of most cardiovascular drugs. Most importantly, the body of ALA research now argues persuasively for the initiation of careful, randomized, controlled trials of dietary flaxseed and/or ALA in a patient population with symptoms of atherosclerotic heart disease.

                So…we got nothing 😅.

      • Notyou@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        2·
        6 days ago

        Don’t forget about beans, nuts, lentils, and fermented foods. Kimchi, sauerkraut, kombucha, or good (not full of sugar) yogurt.

        Let food by thy medicine.