A very very very important video about how enjoyment is not automatically consent by Evie Lupine. We highly recommend it be watched because a lot of people seem to think that all that matters is pleasure and/or enjoyment when it’s not. In fact sometimes not enjoying something is the point. Enjoy the journey, nuance and remember consent, boundaries and autonomy come first and what we have learned from society about such things isn’t always the case. We don’t have to perform a certain type of enjoyment or interest to want to do something or be okay with it.
Wow, that’s terrifying. We really appreciate the explanation however. We understand what you mean as we have been unlearning such things, it is difficult but worth it in the end as we want to be fully consensually with both others and ourselves.