I know you didn’t ask for feedback but if you want another person’s perspective, I’ve cut them all out (trump supporters and bigots), and the people who remain that I feel are still worth trying to maintain or improve the relationship I have been doing what I can to show them the reality of the situation and expose them to the suffering of others that they are shielded from by privilege.

If it were me being misgendered and dead named and otherwise being treated with disrespect by a parent who voted for my erasure, I would also be thinking about cutting them off and telling them how harmful they have been through their behavior and asking how they live with themselves when they’re enabling and even cheering on the violation of human rights of so many people in their own country. I would explain how they have hurt me and the problems they have caused or enabled or failed to protect me from. And if I had the energy/capacity for it I would maybe send some links showing the damage 45 has been doing in such a short period of time if I thought it was worth the time, in particular ways he is hurting people that look like that parent or have similar life circumstances, since they don’t seem to care about people who don’t.

Whatever you end up doing I wish you luck and good outcomes, and safety and peace at home and otherwise. I’m sorry you have such a shitty parent and I can relate in some ways and definitely feel you. You’re not alone 💚