I really wish we could disable PMs from anyone but admins or mods of comms we subscribe to, like you can on reddit. There will never be a day when I want to receive a PM from anyone on Lemmy. It’s nothing personal, there’s lots of cool people here, but I’m not interested in being pen pals. I’m just here for the public forum.
Ooh! You sound sexy and I definitely want to be your pen pal! I’ve sent you a DM!
Also, I have a great business opportunity for you if you’re interested! Have you ever heard of NFTs?
NFTs went away for a while because of crime and scams, but they fixed all those problems I swear. NFTs are the sexiest investment a sexy person could make, and they’re even better now that the leaders are implementing AI! It’s going to be revolutionary! It’s like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI. It’s the bees knees! It’ll make Stephen Hawking blush! I’ll help broker it for you, and if you send me 1 NFT, I will send you 2 back just because I like you.
Can’t wait for your reply!! ❤️
like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI
Aaaaaaaa. Thanks, I hate it. You successfully trolled me.
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Thanks for posting this dude, this is exactly what I was referencing in my comment lol. Just a funny llinked in lunatic”
I also would have accepted E = McHammer
The McHammer is my favourite Happy Meal choice
Just pm’d you asking for more deets.
Or come hang out with us at room/hell
– Comedy Heaven
I didn’t get one 😔
I can catfish you if you want
Me next.
I did. I didn’t think it was a catfish though. I assumed it was some person promoting their streaming shit. Kinda smart, a smaller, mostly nerdy community of niche interests.
Doesn’t mean I didn’t block them though.
Besides all that drama of OP:
Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool. The problem is as always that we can not trust these messages because of the last decade of misuse on various platforms. Even if we take out all the scams, we only accept the right message in the right medium: If someone would write me what OP posted on LinkedIn, I would read it as a business inquire connection (at best). If she would write me that on Tinder&co, I would take it as an avance. If I would get a message like that on facebook, I do not believe in it as a honest request anymore. On Insta I would read it as a scam too. But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said “The Medium is the Message”. We need a Platform/Network/Medium to give a room to actually send a message like that where a connection without the aspect of business or sex is assumed because of the choosen Platform/Network/Medium.
The Fediverse will not solve this problem sadly, as it is mainly just decentralized, but is not out to solve societary tilts and disgraces. But it is nice to think that such a place/site/room could exist (one day?) where a person (even of another gender) could have an exchange like that without bad intentions. As usally, The good ones are silent, and the loud ones are scams.
The loneliness epidemic in a nutshell: we feel we can’t trust people being open and friendly.
That isn’t normal, by the way.
The problem isn’t that we feel we can’t trust them. It’s that we actually can’t trust them. Trusting someone that messages you that way is likely to end up with you in a bathtub full of ice, or at the very least, a compromised bank account.
I didn’t mean to say the well hasn’t been poisoned, only that we need a source of water.
Yeah that’s a pretty concise sitrep.
Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool.
Start c/penpals
But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said “The Medium is the Message”
I’m not sure this is possible on the internet in general. Even in the early days of facebook people were forced to grow suspicious of their old acquaintances reaching out to say hi only to be hit with some “be your own boss!” MLM schtick, and that was when you could be fairly confident the sender was a real person that you actually have known for some time. Not to mention how suspicious we all are of some of the “living my best life!” type of humble-brag posts that are really just sad people playing pretend.
Add a layer of anonymity and I’m just not sure genuine trust could ever be possible. Try to take away anonymity and you wander into the quagmire that is personal privacy and still can’t avoid the possibility of scams and compromised accounts.
I think that the Internet as a Medium simply cannot do what we have been trying to force it to do for years - serve as a good “third place” for socialization. Do people make friends here? Absolutely. But people make friends in the ICU, doesn’t mean we should install a bar there.
I don’t know what drama you think op is introducing
Yeah, but also, such a thing could only result in meaningful physical relationships if the servers/communities have some kind of “local” association. For example, a server for france, one for italy, and one for the netherlands, you know what i mean?
Otherwise, if you just want to flirt and be silly, i recommend the !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone community comment sections.
That’s basically how people introduced themselves on the public discord servers I frequented during the pandemic and it was normal
Mastadon is this way for me
Got 4 copies of it, I don’t even know how to send a message to “all” here, didn’t think it was possible.
The API is pretty open. you can write a script that sends individual messages to however many people you like
I thought this was funny
Imagine unwarping the face 😆
As a mod in other coomunities, please report these as quickly as you can. They can generally be taken care of quickly.
I had this aswell. Will do.
okay lol i feel less bad for reporting this user now that i know it was widespread
I got like 8 of those :-/
damn how did they think that was gonna look legit 🤣
I got the same lol
Me too.
Same here.
Got thar same message. Basic policy: ignore.
post shoe on head with todays’ newspaper
What’s June got to do with it?
I didn’t even know pms were a thing mbin until I got that one earlier. No pic on mine, but might be a cross-compatability issue or already the link died
I also just got it.
Shame. I’ve PM’d a few people and had good conversations.
Sure, but did you at least add context about why you’re messaging them? Like some comment or post they made that you liked and you wanted to talk about similar stuff?
Because that would be kind of normal. That’s what private messages are for. But this one is just bait.
Yeah just a question or a word of encouragement or a recommendation so it didn’t seem like I was advertising. I like most things to be publicly posted but not everything. If Lemmy gets a bunch of bot spam PMs, legit ones will be less likely to get a response.
I imagine speed limits will be put on DMs at some point in the future. There’s no reason to have it wide open so you can firehose multiple people with the same message.
Like, if you’re sending a message to someone and they reply back, you can immediately reply back, back-and-forth, as fast as you want. Other than that, you should only be able to send a message once every five or ten minutes.
bait could be better.
