I’m an older transguy and “pass” very well but I’m considering detransition due to the dangers of the world. I’m in the US and it’s no secret that trans people are being targeted. I’ve been considering if it would be worthwhile to stop testosterone, don a wig, and play dress-up as a woman until this trans witch hunt is over.

I’m solid in my identity, not depressed or panicked. I’ve been in many dangerous situations in my life and know how it feels to make decisions strictly for survival. I know I can withstand detransitioning temporarily or permanently if needed. Not being on T and dressing a certain way won’t make my identity any less true or valid.

I’m at the age where I really don’t care what my outer appearance is or how people perceive me as long as I’m safe.

I could use some feedback from the kind folks here, especially any older transguys.

Disclaimer: no part of this is meant to imply that there is a right or better path for my other trans bros, sisters, and siblings. There is no right way to be your true self beyond what you deem it.

  • Chuymatt@beehaw.org
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    5 days ago

    I hate that I keep seeing these posts. I’m so sorry you are not feeling allowed to live your own life happily and in-harassed.

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      5 days ago

      Thank you. Honestly my life has been so difficult that this feels like no big deal in comparison. I’m certain that I could “pass” (hate that term) as a cis woman if necessary.

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        5 days ago

        Make a bug out bag, make safe-heaven plans, and know that there are allies out there that wish you the best and will be willing to try and protect you