And apparently, also when you think that ‘They’ is a perfectly serviceable gender-neutral singular pronoun, but are willing to use other pronouns if asked to.
EDIT: Other removable offenses on Blahaj now include questioning mod/admin decisions and quoting the modlog as a reason why you’re leaving.
This is twords everyone, not specifically pug,
I really don’t understand how this is so hard for people. If calling someone a hippopotamus makes them happy and doesn’t inconvenience me then you bet your ass I’ll be saying hippopotamus. Seems insane to all get so worked up over something that has no negative impact other than making you not mindlessly say ‘they’. Literally just accept it, or block. Downvoting about it every time you see drag isnt gonna fix anything. That’s harassment, and harassment ain’t cool.
Never thought that would be controversial on Lemmy.
I just really think people have lost their ability to see that someone else is on the other side of the computer screen. As the bumper sticker that got mega upvoted goes, “trans people existing does literally nothing negative to your life”
You don’t even have to respect drags opinions either! You can just treat drag like any other person who has a lot of bad takes (excluding gender). My upvote ratio is literally 36 up 32 down, but I’ll still do something as simple as writing ‘drag’ instead of ‘they’ to make the person on the other side of my computer screen just a little bit happier.
Happy new years, btw.
And if the admins begin removing people who say human beings can’t be hippopotami?
That, for me, was the reason I left/announced leaving. I don’t give a shit about drag, specifically. Drag could be deleted tomorrow and it wouldn’t make a difference. Drag could have been IP banned immediately after Ada started removing comments and it wouldn’t have made a difference to me.
Once “You can’t be a dragon” is considered a sin on par with transphobia, or, by the arguments of some of the Blahaj commenters here, literally the same thing, I’m fucking out. I’ll generally humor people with inoffensive oddities, but when it comes down to “Agree or shut up” about it, I’m not eager to stick around.
I can’t speak for everyone about this, but referring to someone as (like in the example that you use) a “hippopotamus” is fine. I personally think of myself as a cat, and though I don’t personally enjoy actually being referred to as such I can understand other people who would and I can accommodate them. My personal wrinkle with this is far more nuanced.
I’m a gender abolitionist. I regard “gender” as a particular aspect of identity that holds cultural significance. I don’t think aspects of identity should be given so much consideration and weight, and I don’t think it’s useful to refer to something as “gender” when it previously hasn’t been, because that makes my goals less achievable. I also don’t think there should be gendered or personalized pronouns, period. I use gendered pronouns because that’s what society expects of me, but these new ones are not only unnecessary the same way gendered pronouns are but also often aestheticly displeasing. For these reasons and others, I get annoyed by neopronouns, especially bespoke ones. Furthermore, I find the idea of pulling more aspects of identity under the nebulous umbrella of “gender” to be regressive.
Hope that helps you understand.
I like your idea. When I think about it, what’s the point of gender?