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    This sucks. Implies he can only like a trans woman if he’s bi and not if he’s straight.

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      What makes you think there’s a trans girl involved? Could just be a femboy. Also, there’s nothing wrong with bi dudes liking trans girls.

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        I suppose that’s possible, but the lack of clarity on that point still makes me uncomfortable. And there’s nothing wrong with bi dudes liking trans women, obviously. I am a bi dude who happens to be dating multiple trans women.

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        Because the idea that a man attracted to trans women could not be straight is transphobic. Trans women are women and a man attracted to women can be straight regardless of whether they’re trans or cis.

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            Not sure what that has to do with what I said. I didn’t suggest anyone should be compelled to have sex with anyone…

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            Nah. Even if it’s hetero, it’s probably not straight. Straightness is similar to whiteness; simply a term to say “you’re normal and deserving of respect.” It’s a normal word, not simply a descriptive one.

            Dating a nonbinary person as a binary person is definitionally hetero, but hard to call straight. An agender person and a bigender person would totally be het, but totally not be straight. If it’s not a relationship between 2 monogamous, cishet people assigned opposite sexes at birth, it’s weird and unnatural.

            Bigots can literally gatekeep straightness from a cishet woman dating a cisbi man. It’s like a tainting of her for being with a queer person, even if neither she nor the relationship is queer. It doesn’t matter if they’re monogamous for life; it’s one drop of queerness poisoning their ability to be normal. They’d need to hide his true orientation.

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              You definitely have a point there, although I would say that any person with interest in cis-hetero relationships only could call themselves straight.

              Mods here deleted my comment, idk why tho. Seems like a classic case of: "bisexuality is le heckerino transphobia!!1!!1!