I figured since their admin has asked them to stop participating over here it may be worthwhile to get a new discussion going that is primarily blahaj. I’m almost certain they’ll still be upvoting so keep that in mind as that may skew things. Worthwhile to check in from instances that have already defederated them. The previous thread definitely left a bad taste in my mouth but what do y’all think?

Old thread can be found here


EDIT: With regards to the post on new federation guidelines here: https://hexbear.net/post/352119

The current top comment is:

Every instance that has talked shit and got dogpiled should be thanking us for breathing some life into their dead and boring ass websites.

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    Ada has very poorly handled the response to her “people of NATO” statement in a way that leaves a very bad taste in my mouth regarding the administration of Blåhaj Lemmy

    What I was trying to say is that wishing death on people is not acceptable, but wishing for the downfall of organisations is perfectly acceptable.

    If that leaves a bad taste in your mouth, I don’t know what to tell you.

    And if the bad taste in your mouth was because you thought I was saying something else, or that I was trying to make some sort of implicit comparison to terms like “people of colour”, then hopefully this clarifies things, because it wasn’t any of that.

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      or that I was trying to make some sort of implicit comparison to terms like “people of colour”, […]

      Honestly that just seems like people reading too much into things, even though “people of NATO” is still a really unusual and imprecise phrasing. If English is your second language and it was sort of a heat-of-the-moment edit, then phrasing things oddly is understandable, and it’s really bad that people were assuming ill intent just because of unusual phrasing.

      Anyways, sorry if I’ve been too impolite and added too much to your stress, you do good work overall (and if this seems like groveling, sorry about that, too) — I’m not going to change my views, but it’s also probably best not to keep prodding at such differences, in your den. I wasn’t aware of this unwritten rule when I signed up and I’ll make sure to respect it regardless of how I feel about it.

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        Honestly that just seems like people reading too much into things

        That’s what this whole thing has been, beginning to end. Sometimes deliberately so.

        It’s not ok to wish death on people. It is ok to wish for the downfall of oppressive organisations. Some people believe the latter is only achievable through the former, and use “motte and bailey” ambiguity to say the latter but mean the former.

        That line is the point of disagreement, and because I do disagree, people used the often deliberate ambiguity to paint me as ignorant.

        The truth is, it doesn’t matter what I said, because that ambiguity (by design) makes it impossible to navigate without meaning getting lost. And because of the nature of hexbear, as soon as I was seen as even implicitly “defending NATO”, it was open season

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          It’s not ok to wish death on people.

          Would you like me to try to explain again why I disagree, or should I just tuck my arms and pout about it?

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            I get why you and others disagree. What I don’t understand is why so many people insist that I have to be ok with wishing death on really bad people too, or otherwise I deserve the shit that happened in that other thread.

            It seems like a really strange point to turn on someone over…

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              I guess people are just growing more and more tense nowadays, “There’s something in the air”, I always say. I’m really sorry that all that happened.