but you don’t want to cede control over the finances because you’ve tied your sense of self-worth to your status as the breadwinner?

that’s not it.

i wouldnt mind handing that status off, but i do mind that she wont be able to pursue her creative career while out cleaning some shitty offices.

im sorry it did not work out for you.

but who said anything about me becoming a deadweight wth? i didnt quit. i still have a job. i should just remove this