• Lettuce eat lettuce@lemmy.ml
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    Passion for something. It′s such a turnoff when you are talking to somebody and they aren’t interested in anything.

    Current events? Meh. Books? Meh. Films/Shows? Meh.

    I don’t care if it’s stamp collecting or chewing gum flavors or the history of wallpaper design, just be passionate or interested in something. At least we can converse for while on that topic.

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      Yep, even if someone doesn’t know something it’s perfect if they’re open to learning more :)

      They don’t have to be interested in every topic, it’s the openness that goes a long way

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      I so feel this. Whenever someone has a smart niche, whether it’s just reading a lot or being skilled at something like maths, they become sooo much more attractive to me

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    To borrow the new age term, an old soul.

    There are just people who possess a sort of cynically detached understanding of the world and people. They aren’t fired by largely pointless passion or desire, they’re intelligent and perceptive enough to generally understand things and emotionally mature enough to generally accept them and they have a way of just sort of gliding through life, maintaining a relatively even keel instead of getting distracted and disconcerted by irrelevancies.

    Every single person I’ve ever known who was like that has been or is special to me.

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    Having an interest in sharing something with you without making you feel stupid about it.

    Went to about art museum with a guy, and he was super excited to tell me about certain pieces and artists and their history. He was very kind when I asked questions about things that were probably very obvious to a more studious person.

    Was on his arm by the end of the date. Absolutely smitten!

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    Empathy and I can’t find a single word to describe it but being able to understand and recognize other sides of opinions or arguments/debates, respectfully of course

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    Someone who doesn’t impose their will, beliefs, or anything else on another person.

    My ex wife worked very hard at changing me, until I barely recognised who I was. My now wife let me be myself again, and I will forever lover her for that.

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    A good personality.

    Its the single most important characteristic someone needs to have.

    I like to imagine the people downvoting this are vapid, miserable assholes who are angry because every relationship they’ve ever had has failed, in flames, because their now ex partners told them they have awful personalities.

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      good personality

      uses most of the words in the comment to wish everyone who downvotes a terrible and miserable life

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          Sorry, I don’t know what you mean by that, I just wanted to tell you in a humorous that for me your comment doesn’t come across in the way you maybe wanted it to. To be more explicit given the topic, it sounds like you are making negative assumptions about others. Many people will perceive that as unattractive.