So I know everyone is going to answer “yes”, but I want actual real thoughts. I just want to know where I fit in.

I’m AMAB, and present as male, at least on the surface. I’ve always felt that was wrong though. But I don’t necessarily think I’m a woman. I wish I was more feminine. And recently I started full body laser hair removal, and I have pretty long hair, and currently have my toe nails painted. But I also have a beard, and otherwise present totally as cis.

Am I “trans”? I don’t feel “cis”, but I feel like calling myself trans just isn’t accurate and is inappropriate. Is there any other option?

And a complicating factor is that I’m basically only attracted to female presenting people. I see a lot of mtf trans people posting online “t4t”. Would other trans people consider me “trans”?

  • zea
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    4 months ago

    I struggled to feel like a woman too. Part of it was internalized transphobia, but part of it was imagining what others would expect of me when I called myself a woman. I don’t want to be ultra fem and all the other expectations, and telling myself that helped a lot. My gender expression is quite masculine, but I’m still a woman (or demigirl maybe? Eh, whatever).