For context I’m not out to anyone and I still boymode (6months HRT)

I was at a party in a bar with friends 1 month ago, we took pictures together and posted them in a discord server, immediately a dude “V” asked if I was a real femboy. So now I have people asking me about it and I didn’t reply.

Yesterday I had an eyelid surgery and I sent a picture in the group with my eye patch just for fun and V immediately went “yeah you’re 100% a femboy I was certain of it” (in another language) and people AGREED???!!

I don’t know what to do, on one hand I want to be a woman not a boy or a man, but on the other, since I probably won’t pass until I get FFS I might as well say I am a femboy in the meantime, this way I can pretend to be a man and still wear what I want?

I’m not sure I would get treated better than if I was out as a trans woman. Feminine men get a lot of shit. But femboys seem to be trendy enough to be seen as weirdly cool. Idk…

  • Chloë (she/her)OP
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    5 months ago

    I bet you look way more feminine than you think you do considering they think you are a femboy despite your current masc presentation

    Thanks :) but I think it’s more a matter of being relatively young and wearing nail polish.

    And honestly I don’t know what they think ABT femboys but they seem to talk about them sadly in a sexual fashion, no one in the group is queer (that I know of) besides me.

    you could temporarily identify as a femboy to ease into coming out as a trans woman.

    It might be easier to understand for my friends, so I guess I’d be pretending to be a femboy which while not ideal is better than being a man.