I regret something and could use some advice on how to move past it. Recently, I was browsing YouTube and saw a comment from someone asking for help removing a stuck ring because their finger had swelled in the morning. I responded with a possible solution. A few minutes later, I deleted that comment and reposted the same advice, but this time, I also asked them to record and upload a video of the ring removal attempt.
Unfortunately, by the time I added the request to record, they had already seen my first comment and used the method I suggested. It took them one hour in total to remove the ring. I was really looking forward to seeing a video of the process because no existing videos are that long (most are around 30 minutes at most). They even mentioned they had a tool that could have easily recorded the attempt, so I missed a great opportunity to see this interesting and lengthy ring removal.
Now, I feel such regret because I had control over the situation but still wasted this chance. I know it is trivial in the grand scheme of things since it is just for entertainment, but I cannot help but feel disappointed. Asking the person to get their ring stuck again just to record it is obviously not an option, so I will never be able to see that footage.
Since this did not really affect my life in a major way, the usual advice on how to get rid of regret might not be as effective. How do I move past this feeling of missing out on something that could have been really interesting to watch?
Wtf
Hello, can you tell me what is wrong with this post?
I have no idea why you would have regret about not getting an hour long video of someone removing a stuck ring
I think the reason is that these videos are interesting to me, but I do not know why.
Just get a ring stuck on your finger or a mannequin’s finger and remove it yourself to demonstrate and have control over the filming.
I recorded it a while ago, but my knuckles are too big, so the video was not that interesting. I am more interested in rings that get stuck due to swelling and fat fingers, not big knuckles.
Also, who would even want to have a stuck ring just for it to be recorded? Not everyone has the same mindset as me.
Even if the opportunity presented itself, it’s not necessarily the case that it would have come to fruition. Chances are that person wouldn’t have bothered to make a video even with your request, because they were likely panicking about their stuck ring. I’d be happy that my advice helped the person out without pushing my luck to get a video out of it too.
I talked with this person about recording it, and they said that they were actually going to record it by using a tool that can record these kinds of footages, had I not been too late.
Okay, but you have to realize that they’re under no obligation to please you.
I mean, this post is about how to get rid of regret, not about forcing the person to record it.
Is this tool called a camera, by chance?
I meant a tool that can hold a phone to record the ring removal.
Genuinely, can we stop downvoting OP’s comments and post? No matter how little you can relate to this, it’s not justified to downvote someone not understanding why others find this weird. My god, this is No Stupid Questions, the last place where we should punish someone for confessing something that is important for them!
Be humane. Treat other people’s struggles with respect.
Downvotes on this site are effectively just a metric of how many stupid people saw your post. The rating system shouldn’t exist at all imo. It gamifies opinions.
Are we starting a ‘best of lemmy hall’ because this shit is gold. Not broken arms reddit but it’s inching there
I still don’t understand what makes this post special.
You not understanding is the special part ❤️
Okay, but can you tell me that to make me understand?
I think the majority of users here find this post odd because of the level of regret over this specific missed opportunity. Most people would not make a post asking for advice on how to move beyond regret unless the intensity and duration of regret were seemingly insurmountable. Those that do would likely do so if they were being tormented for quite some time over a major life-changing event: missed opportunity for love, career, riches, or fame. This post is seeking advice on how to move beyond regret over the missed opportunity of a video on removing a ring that is stuck because the fingers increased in size (not because of knuckles). It gives the impression that either your life is spectacular because missing an opportunity for a ring removal video is the most regretful experience of your life, or your fascination with ring removal is uniquely extreme. The latter would cause people to wonder what about ring removal could be so rewarding. Since it doesn’t have any evident answer, they consider your taste odd.
or your fascination with ring removal is uniquely extreme.
Yes, this is the reason. I am interested in stuck rings and the process of ring removals.
Therapy
Legitimately the best answer here. OP sounds like they have tendencies that aren’t good for long term social and mental health.
OP accidentally reveals their fetish.
(Just joking, but this is hilarious for some reason, I’m sorry)
Okay, what makes this post hilarious?
Sound slike you’re young? You’re going to miss a shit ton more of these kind of opportunities. You’re going to have to learn to deal with it and learn from it so that you don’t make the same mistake next time.
Opportunities aren’t rare, but theyre not common either. It’s best to seize as many as you can to get as much out of life as you can.
Okay, but the thing is that while I also had other regrets, they were lessened after waiting. This however, seems like it is not going to lessen at all. Even if it seems like the regret disappeared, it comes back after one or a few days. My question is how to deal exactly with missed opportunities.
All you can do is learn from your mistakes and do better next time. That’s what mistakes are for, to learn. Without mistakes, you don’t learn.
Honestly, these situations of spontaneous regret happen a lot to me, and they seldomly are about the thing that i’m supposedly regretting. Often, it is some deeply rooted issues in my brain instead, that just seek some kind of “replacement sadness”. So it’s probably not really about that thing (video in your case) but about something else, that needs time to express itself, sothat you can get over it.
