• lugal@sopuli.xyz
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    2 months ago

    Remindes me of the tweet that said something like “My favorite moment on the internet was when someone said, they believe that people will changed their mind when given evidence. Then I linked TWO SOURCES that said otherwise and they were like I still believe it.”

    Or when a hexbearian explained to me that hexbear isn’t toxic at all, it’s just when people refuse to read sources but than it’s their fault for not engaging with the material. Later they refused to open my sources.

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      The person you’re talking to is unlikely to be pursuaded but there’s usually silent, invisible lurkers who can be.

      I know I’ve changed my mind on things because of arguments I’ve read on the internet.

      It is proven that people do double down on their views when confronted with opposing evidence, but IMO this is more about the psychology of trust and confrontation between individuals, rather than proof of the futility of argument as a concept. Hell, Vsauce made a video called ‘The Future of Reasoning’, where he makes the case that argument might have been selected for as an essential part of human psychology and necessary for our survivial.

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        True. Sometimes it takes more than one random person on the internet to convince you but they might be part of starting a thought process.

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        Evidence shows that arguments are really only conducive to changing opinions when the person has a set of primers to find the person they disagree with otherwise agreeable. They refer to it as being in alignment with socio-epistemic conditions. Basically, people within a group identity can change opinions with others in the group, as long as the difference in opinion is not one that would be diametrically opposed to their group’s underlying identity. So, arguments between people from two different groups, like left v right, don’t really change minds towards the group they do not identify with. Those watching the debate will agree with the people who are in the same socio-epistemic group. This arguably makes public debate a bad thing. This is because those third party on-lookers will side with the person in the debate they most identify with for reasons outside of the debate. So you are simply platforming the person you disagree with, and possibly exposing people more in alignment with them, to an argument for a more extreme version of their position, rather than exposing them to a counter-opinion argument, to be considered.

        Here is a good starting point on this subject, it links to a number of supporting papers early in the paper.

        https://academic.oup.com/aristotelian/article/123/2/173/7207975

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    Wether it’s on the internet or at a bar counter, I like to engage in debate to better myself. If your goal is to turn every fanatic that crosses your path, you’re gonna be depressed real soon.

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      If your goal in an argument is to change the other person’s mind, then changing your mind (by taking in new information, learning, and understanding a different point of view) is seen as losing. That’s a terrible way to look at what is ultimately personal growth.

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    One of the most refreshing things I’ve seen since joining Lemmy is people actually apologizing in comment threads like this.

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      Challenge accepted.

      No you’re wrong. It’s a game of votes, whoever gets the most votes is the most correct.

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        So, if I just wait for the argument to cool off, then start replying, over and over, to anyone but the person I am directly disagreeing with, but still in the same thread, until the automatic votes accumulate to my favor, I will always be right?

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    You don’t realize that you’re wrong in the moment. The idea bounces around in your head long enough for your brain to decide it was your own conclusion. We can become less biased, but make no mistake: our brains are a total mess.

    This is what happens when evolution throws hardware at a problem, succeeds, and it’s still poorly optimized.

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      Realizing you’re wrong while you’re still tilted is the weirdest feeling.

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      I’ve definitely changed my mind on a few things as a result of online discussions. I can’t remember specifically what the topics were, unfortunately. What I do remember is that it didn’t happen the moment of the disagreement. It was a few days later when the topic came back up for unrated reasons and I realized I had the other opinion.

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    The trick is to argue with the voices in your own head and simply project them on to other people’s comments.

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      i cannot express how much i hate that, why must people keep imagining points and opinions i never said or made

  • HappyFrog
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    I don’t argue to make them change their mind, I argue to make them angry >:)

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        Haven’t thought about it like that, but I guess you’re right. Though, I can comfort myself in thinking I only “troll” bad people.

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    Oh goodness, I should hope not! I love arguing on the internet, and I would hate to think that I’m actually changing peoples minds.

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    The last few years had made me lose all respect for debates as a field of study. Remembering shit like logos and pathos and all that nonsense for nothing.

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    90% of statistics on the internet are made up on the spot. Just because people stop replying to you doesn’t mean you’ve “changed their views”, but that’s the only thing you will encounter if you never stop before they do. A big hint that they won’t be convinced is how they will just try to nitpick the most irrelevant points in your replies, ignoring the crux of the argument.

    Acting like that is a good way to get stuck wasting your time, just give them a chance to know the facts and correct themselves with actual evidence and citations, and then move on. You help more people “change their views” that way, nobody is going to your shitpost deeply nested reply threads anyway. Nobody worth considering, anyway.