• Technus@lemmy.zip
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    Not once have I encountered a trans person on a dating app who wasn’t 100% transparent about it. Some even asked me after matching, “you’re aware that I’m trans, right?” just to be sure.

    There’s no logical reason to falsely pretend to be cis on a dating app to get matches. If someone’s cool about it then it’s better to know up front, right? And if they’re not, then you probably don’t want to waste your time on them.

    The “justification” for this app is just bigotry, plain and simple. Fuck TERFs.

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      This is a great point.

      The technology that excludes transwomen from the app is the clear warning that the app is populated exclusively for transphobes. It’s obviously wildly dangerous for a transwoman to be on the app.

      The notion that AI is going to clock them is absurd AI hype. There’s no reason to expect AI to be capable of this kind of discernment, and that assumes you even had a training set. Where in the absolute fuck would someone find a training set like that?

      Edit: I didn’t read the article. It seems it’s a lesbian dating app. Well, probably less dangerous for transwomen, but still not technically sound.

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        We sometimes have to clarify that LGBT+ folk aren’t particularly virtuous, just people, and like the rest of the population suffers from its own share of internal bigotry. The lesbian community is no exception.

        Lesbians range from really rather bisexual to staunchly misandrist and there are different gatekeeping checkpoints, where some don’t count trans women as lesbians to others that don’t want to date a woman who’s ever been with a man (which makes for a really small dating pool).

        But this kind of exclusion is not about who these women date, rather who they allow into their community and are allowed to come to their potlucks and tea parties. Generally communities that are progressive and have experienced external oppression and dehumanization are glad to be welcoming and inclusive. Mostly. And I think this includes the lesbian community.

        From my experience. I’ll get to how that’s tricky.

        I’ve found the lesbian circles I’ve engaged with have been even more inclusive than the general LGBT+ community. They’re actually really good about including bisexuals and trans women that are into women. However, this is partly due to the anthropic principle: Even though I’m enby I still have [M] on my state ID, look like a dude and have male parts, and have been completely forthright about this even in online circles (e.g. r/actuallesbians) where no-one would ever know I was really a cat. But this means that I don’t get invites to circles that are more restrictive, since I’d be high on the no-admittance list.

        But inclusive lesbians are not super fond of less inclusive ones, especially since human sexuality can change over time. The closet has multiple doors, and when your best friend who invites you to all the get-togethers is a women-only transphobe second-wave feminist (this was a thing), and suddenly you’ve been taking an interest in a special guy, you’re going to keep your bi-curiosity hidden from your friend (or stop being friends). And as per the whole thing of coming out, the point of the LGBT+ community is being able to be who you are, and being accepted and validated.

        So when I see a lesbians dating app that is intentionally looking to draw transphobes, it reminds me of those conservative dating apps to hook up men in the white power movement with trad-wife minded women, which is to say it’s good they’re over there and not trying to date people over here that they’re ultimately going to disappoint and hurt.

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        Good point. I don’t want to date trans people, but I wouldn’t want to use an app that purposely excluded them. I’d rather occasionally have to go “oh sorry thanks for telling me” than restrict my dating pool to bigots.

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          Facebook couldn’t build a model that has 100% accuracy on if something is a dog or a cat, let alone if a woman is trans.

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            Especially since you oftentimes can’t tell at all from just a picture. There’s cis woman that look more like a man than some trans women.

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          Why do you guarantee that? It seems obviously wrong, on a technical level.

          The point I’m making is that even if we take it as a given that a shrewd enough AI could correctly distinguish sex at birth – which I think is obviously impossible based on the appearances of many ciswomen and the nature of statistical prediction – you’d still need a training data set.

          If the dataset has any erroneous input, that corrupts its ability, and the whole point of this exercise is trying to find passing transwomen. Why would anyone expect that training set of hundreds of thousands of supposed cis women wouldn’t have a few transwomen in it?

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            Because Facebook’s data practices, and how much was volunteered by users on there, means that for some percentage of trans users Facebook knows that they’re trans. And you also have a percentage of pregnancy photos uploaded, if someone identifies as a woman on Facebook, and has uploaded photos with a baby bump, she’s cis (or at least a pre-hatching trans person). And at one point in time, a lot of people just volunteered that info to Facebook.

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              Yeah, but the training set is nowhere near clean. That’s my point. “Close” is no where near good enough within this context,

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      Not once have I encountered a trans person on a dating app who wasn’t 100% transparent about it.

      …that you know of. not defending bigots or bullying, but that statement doesn’t make sense.

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        I mean, isn’t that also just true of anyone you’ve interacted with? Their point was that they never “found out” someone they were dating on there was trans, and everyone that dated from those apps who oc every discovered were trans were straightforward about it.

        Why would you need or want to be that precise about your language?

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          Their point

          oh geez, thank you for explaining someone else’s point, you must be quite an insider into their thoughts 😂

          was that they never “found out”

          that is not what was said

          why would you need or want to be that precise about your language

          you need to be precise with your language because that is what allows us to communicate ideas to each other and logic through arguments, eventually accepting or refuting them.

          for example you can call these two strawberry, and nuclear submarine, but it is going to seriously hinder your communication with others, because that is now what is commonly understood under these terms.

          you can see it in the comment we are discussing. because i read the implication original commenter tried to make as it never happened to me => it is not a problem that needs to be addressed.

          which is incorrect implication in itself, but more importantly, as i pointed out, the premise of the implication is flawed.

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    First, from a purely technical perspective, there is absolutely no way this works properly, you just can’t recognize a trans person just by looking at his/her face, even if this was ethically okay (and this isn’t), it couldn’t work at all.

    Second, the privacy nightmare that would be, every picture of everyone would be processed (and certainly stored forever for training the program) without the possibility to disable it ?

    And finally, the obvious discrimination against trans people (I never encountered a trans person that wasn’t honest about it, so it’s even pointless to “detect” them)

    To be honest I’m not in the LGBT community or anything, but this goes to far

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    It actually won’t, it will incorrectly attempt to identify and exclude people, but it won’t work, because this is all snake oil horseshit perpetrated by attention seeking grifters.

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      It’ll exclude plenty of people, it just won’t do a good job of selectively excluding trans people.

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        Exposing conservatives to firsthand discrimination, which is the only kind that’s real to them… huh.

        This might accidentally fix some assholes.

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    isn’t this solving a problem that doesn’t really exist? I’d have thought most trans people on dating apps would be fairly up front about it… you know for safety or even just expectations management? I can’t speak from experience, my dating life predates the rise of dating apps

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      Yes, trans folks tend to be pretty upfront for the reasons you mentioned.

      This is just some hateful, bullshit, trans panic nonsense. Some people can’t even handle the idea that they might as a matter of course be attracted to a trans person given the opportunity.

      This tech will inevitably also exclude some slightly less normative appearing cis folks too, but they don’t care because they just hate trans people.

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      Plot twist: she only wanted to come out as trans so she cooked up this ridiculous idea to out herdelh

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      funny enough terfs already tried this once before and ran into literally the same problems.

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      Yeah… If anyone starts talking too much about the shape of the human skull as if that means anything whatever they are selling ain’t worth the pitch

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      Hmm well I admit I haven’t seen many people willing to tell your fortune by cutting open an animal then reading the guts inside. Someone should contact Y-combinator. Maybe work block chain into it somehow.

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    What about making different classifications for cis and trans males and females? There are people who are not dating someone trans or who only date trans people.

    Saving them the weird moment of realizing it seems good.

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      You’d be better suited just having a user select that they are comfortable dating a trans individual because it will likely come up very early in the dating process anyway.

      Forcing someone to identify as a gender that doesn’t make them comfortable is just going to result in them not using your app and is frankly kind of a dick move overall. Your suggestion would just create an app that was suited for chasers, not trans users.

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    Some daughters have the same face as their fathers, some sons have the same face as their mothers. How could this possibly work?

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      It’s like claiming that you can identify homosexuality through facial recognition. There’s no such thing as a “trans face”. It’s just a silly idea.

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        @Corgana@startrek.website

        They said the same thing about gaydar but I already subscribe $9.95/month for the AI addon package for that. I already preorded the trantenna (trans antenna 🤣 ) for a cool $500 down. No price is too much to keep children safe… on dating service networks? Wait, I thought we hated trans people to save the children? There shouldn’t be children on these sites anyways.

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          You know, TECHNICALLY, everybody is someone’s child. Mental gymnastics are an art form to these nutcases.

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    Seems like wasted effort & resources…

    The people on the apps should be able to manage their own activity.

    As long as the greater society continues to conflate sex(ual)/genitalia[male, female, intersex/hermaphrodite] with gender(man, woman, trans man, trans woman, non-binary, etcetera) nothing will reach a mutal level of comprehension.

    The plethora of false positives makes this technology flawed - the number of females who will be flagged as trans 😅… the plethora of trans woman who will not get flagged…😅…

    What a time to be alive…

    These apps are not created to make meaningful connections. It’s to increase their profits and engagement. Apps have been around how long now, and we see a DECLINE in the quality of relationships not their improvement…

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          Ok fine then I am out of ideas.

          Also do you really want this? I mean I am glad me and my wife basically agree on politics but that is a really tiny part of our relationship. I can’t imagine sitting on some app using selection bubbles to find girls who are perfectly aligned with my stance on every issue, knowing that this was the biggest reason why they are also there.

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            Me, personally? I have no horse in this race. I was just saying it’s inaccurate to imply that only under 25s are not conservative

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        lots (not all!) of 20-30 year old men with shitty opinions these days thanks to gamergate and joe rogan…

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    This already happened a few years ago. Transphobic ciswomen got mad when the app identified them as trans.