• Amelia_
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    8 months ago

    Not so great. 6 months HRT.

    I don’t look good in any feminine clothing. I’m too insecure to practice voice or makeup around my partner. Because I don’t look remotely femme I’m too insecure to look for a hairdresser.

    My partner keeps pressuring me because I don’t like enough traditionally cis woman things, or don’t like them as much as I should, or that I still like some things that are not necessarily targeted towards cis women, and its ruining my self-confidence. I need local transfem friends I can reach out to and hang out with and go shopping with but its not easy being older and non-US.

    Once step forward, three steps back.

    • Emily (she/her)M
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      8 months ago

      I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you this, but having hobbies and likes that aren’t traditionally feminine doesn’t make you any less a woman. Every cis woman I know has at least a couple supposedly “masculine” hobbies. If you’re partner is pressuring you to fit into a sexist stereotype, it sounds like they aren’t actually very supportive of you.

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      8 months ago

      About in the same boat. 6 months in, see some changes but definitely agony trying to be patient. Is your partner supportive or not so much? Mine sure wasn’t it was pretty bad hah.

      • Amelia_
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        8 months ago

        It feels like my partner wants to be supportive because it’s the right thing to do, but at an instinctive level she is unhappy and resentful as she was raised in an exceptionally conservative, highly-religious, eastern european family.

        Which results in saying the right things, but pulling back short of any real support with passive aggression, apathy, and feigned ignorance. I’m not sure whether I’d prefer that to completely unsupportive.

        • Hello Hotel@lemmy.world
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          7 months ago

          Im sorry to hear this is happening. I am concerned my famaily will get wierd seeing me change like this. Anyway, its been a month since you commented, how have things been?