• Flying Squid@lemmy.worldOP
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    6 months ago

    What people? I have never seen anyone get angry about being accidentally misgendered.

    No one is being “harassed” or “intimidated” into calling people what they want to be called. You’re just an asshole if you don’t do it because you’re not giving them a very basic amount of respect: the acknowledgement of the right to be who they are.

    • assassin_aragorn@lemmy.world
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      6 months ago

      On the contrary in fact, I’ve seen people be very forgiving if you accidentally screw up but genuinely mean well. I accidentally misgendered a friend of mine once, and when I realized it I immediately started profusely apologizing. They appreciated it but said it was all good.

      At the end of the day, everything can be distilled down to one maxim – be genuinely kind to people, and 99% of people will respond in kind and forgive mistakes.

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        6 months ago

        Sure, anyone can make a mistake. Trans people know that just as well as cis people. If you just say sorry and correct yourself, most trans people would probably be fine with it. It’s the people who do it on purpose that are the problem.

      • CileTheSane@lemmy.ca
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        6 months ago

        If someone was a jerk to you, then that person is a jerk.

        If everyone is a jerk to you, then you’re probably the jerk.