I mean like I accept who I was born as but if given the choice I’d choose to be born a woman, yk? Idk but I kinda envy them a bit but i’m fine being an unsexy man

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    • Stern
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      73 months ago

      We going full luck build boys!

      C’mon son of a billionaire!

  • @FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee
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    363 months ago

    I would definitely never choose to be born a woman again. I’ve had some really terrible things happen to me because of my birth gender, and while I know some of them can and do happen to men, they wouldn’t be in the same context.

    My life has been quite a lot better since I stopped presenting as a woman. Testosterone made me really sick, so I’ll never be able to present as a man, but the middle ground is good enough for me

  • @StellarExtract@lemm.ee
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    233 months ago

    Opposite, no question. I don’t hate being AMAB, and there are parts I like, but a lot of aspects of it are really boring to me. Lack of clothing options/self-expression being a big one. It’s frankly always felt like a box I’ve been forced into even though parts of it fit well. That said, I’d probably feel the same if I were AFAB, just about different aspects. I don’t want to transition in my current life, but I’d definitely switch in a new life.

    • @RegalPotoo@lemmy.world
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      103 months ago

      Same boat- AMAB, and no dysphoria with that at all, but yeah, a little jealous of women’s fashion options.

      It’s taken me until my mid thirties, but things I’ve come to realise:

      • There are a bunch more options for women - entire categories of garments that aren’t socially applicable for men to wear - but a lot of that comes from a much wider variance in body shape for women. There are plenty of things that just don’t work if you aren’t a size 12 B-cup with a conventional body shape. A cropped top is just as off limits if you are a woman with a bit of a tummy or D+ cup breasts as it is for men
      • There are options for men, but they aren’t always as obvious, and often end up looking more formal - try different shoes, different coloured belts layering things (open shirt over a t-shirt etc)
      • Most men (and I’m super guilty of this) don’t get a haircut as often as they should. There is a whole world of options and styles, try some out, find one you like from a barber you have a rapport with, go regularly to keep it looking good
    • @Twitches@lemm.ee
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      53 months ago

      Completely agree, you can wear a dress, leggings, a blouse, style your hair, but, I’m sitting hear in my boring uncomfortable pants and t shirt. I completely agree with everything your saying.

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        Nothing is forcing you to dress that way . I wear a skirt a few times and they are very comfy. Also I really enjoy some colorful nail polish! Do what ever you want it’s your life!! I’ve been in drag a few times too , one time my gf gave me a classic Harley Quinn look and she dressed as the Joker !

      • @pete_the_cat@lemmy.world
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        43 months ago

        There’s this girl I found a while back that posts on GoneWild and OF (ForestGreen91) and she can completely change her look just by styling her hair differently and putting on some makeup. It can change her from a 5 to an 8.5 easily. It’s actually quite impressive.

        I live in Miami now and it’s a very fashionable city, all the women look sexy as hell with different style dresses, shoes, accessories, and hair styles. All the guys largely look the same, myself included.

  • @KestrelAlex@lemmy.world
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    213 months ago

    When I think of growing up female again, but in the current time, it sounds terrible, but then I think of growing up male inbhe current times and it seems awful too, so I think I have to tick the “neither box” and accept I’m too old for this modern shit in any gender form.

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      I can think of many many exceptions to that Time Machine idea. It, itself is an example of Western ignorance about non-Western history.

      But I agree with your wider point.

  • @isthingoneventhis@lemmy.world
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    193 months ago

    Is having… no gender an option? Boobs are a hassle, I can’t fathom dealing with having to wrangle a dick into pants, I just kind of want to be a human without having to deal with either.

    • @eatthecake@lemmy.world
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      113 months ago

      I wonder what an androgynous body would feel like. My body is full boobs and hips, which is fine, but wholly unimportant to my identity. I think i would like the freedom of not being seen as boobs. I’m pretty genderless in my head.

  • don
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    193 months ago

    I don’t know why I’d ever willingly choose a life so fraught with sexism and sexual assault. Women pass by me all the time as though I don’t exist, and I’m absolutely fine with that.

  • @pete_the_cat@lemmy.world
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    183 months ago

    IDK I’m a dude and women have to deal with a lot of shit both socially and physically… But boobs are great.

      • @trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world
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        53 months ago

        On one hand yes, on the other hand, chances of getting date raped would also be a lot higher. As a white male I’m basically playing life with cheat codes.

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    I mean like I accept who I was born as but if given the choice I’d choose to be born a woman, yk? Idk but I kinda envy them a bit but i’m fine being an unsexy man

    Said by millions of trans women in denial before you…

    That’s not to say that you are trans. I can’t tell you that. But what I will say is that for most people, their gender isn’t something they “tolerate”

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    133 months ago

    Hell no. I’ve seen what women go through from periods to harassment to abortion rights and I do not like it one bit. I’d rather be comfortable.

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      Are you comfortable in a world that does that to women, though? Not the periods obviously, the harassment and disappearing freedom.

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        13 months ago

        It’s not happening to me, even though I have other struggles, so yes? I’m not sure what you’re asking.

  • @dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world
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    103 months ago

    May as well have a go at the opposite.

    If that ever happens, though, I predict a lot of dudes are getting kicked in the nuts. Just saying. So you’d better watch out.