• AdaA
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    They’re not on my instances or any instance I federate with.

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      Just because you are not aware doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

      Reading into blahaj.zoje more, plenty of queer folk are friendly and supportive, but plenty are also pieces of shit. Sometimes you may also not realize if you create an echo chamber what is acceptable and what bleeds into extremist rhetoric.

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        I don’t give a crap about “echo chambers”. I give a crap about creating a safe environment for a group of folk that are actively under attack.

        And that means getting rid of the bigots, not just hiding them

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          I get wanting a safe space from persecution.

          But echo chambers are dangerous and can really distort your reality. I personally find going from a safe space/echo chamber to reality very jarring and much more conflicting than from a relatively safe space with some conflict to reality.

          By shutting it all out I’d argue you are risking hurting yourself unless you can guarantee a safe space in every aspect of life which is very difficult.

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            But echo chambers are dangerous

            Not as dangerous as the hate trans people face every single day from the government, from media and from society at large.

            People need a space where they can let their guard down. Creating that space is my goal.

            The sad truth is, no space ever lets us completely let our guard down, but we get as close as we can.

            unless you can guarantee a safe space in every aspect of life which is very difficult.

            Communities trying to make spaces as safe as possible isn’t some slippery slope. This is either disingenuous or ignorant of the reality we face as trans folk.

            There are no truly safe spaces for us. Even our safe spaces aren’t completely safe, because bad faith folk do their best to make it that way. Yet even so, many of us benefit from spaces that are actively inclusive, and remove bigots. Appeals to slippery slopes, or implications that we simply don’t understand how looking after our own needs is somehow bad don’t change our lived reality

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                I’ve been building and developing communities, queer and otherwise for decades. I’m also trans, and live it first hand.

                The per user approach puts a cost on each and every user, and that cost can sometimes be too much for vulnerable folk dealing with harassment. Blocking the bigot with a throw away account after being exposed to the bigotry is pointless, because the account was going to be abandoned anyway, and you’ve already been exposed to the raw hate.

                It makes it impossible to just have fun and enjoy your social media experience when you’re always waiting for the next bigot to drop it.

                Instance level blocking resolves a lot of that.

                Your theory of what will work just doesn’t cut it for many vulnerable folk, and it’s not going to start cutting it just because you want to debate the topic.

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                    Nothing fundamentally prevents you from ignoring a whole instance.

                    The issue is that users aren’t “instance based” in the same way they are on the fediverse. On the fediverse, instances are communities of like minded folk, so all of the bigots hang out in bigot friendly instances, which I simply defederate from. If they join non bigot friendly instances, they get removed

                    On Bluesky, bigots don’t belong to a particular instance. They just pop up with throw away accounts and have to be dealt with, one by one.

                    You people have gotten so used to commercial bullshit that you don’t realize how much can be done with simple things.

                    I’ve been on the fediverse longer than you my friend. I don’t use centralised social media of any type.

                    The issue isn’t that I “don’t realise”, it’s that what I want from a social media platform isn’t something that Bluesky offers. You want different things to me. Arguing at me as if you can make me want the same things as you is a waste of both of our times.

                    Bluesky doesn’t give me what I need, and it’s ultimately that simple

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            Echo chambers aren’t that bad. I don’t surround myself with people and things I like because the ones I don’t like are going to hurt me, I do it because I don’t like them and my life is too short to waste with their nonsense.

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          You can kick bigots off a Bluesky PDS.

          But letting everyone label accounts and posts and run feeds of moderation advice is a lot quicker at booting someone from the virtual space than waiting around for someone to come and decide that yes, so-and-so really has broken BigPDSHost policy and shall be deleted. It’s also a great way to find who you want to boot.

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            Right, but it’s reactive and on a per user basis.

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                That’s literally how moderation on Bluesky works… You choose the people you want to moderate and curate your feed…

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              Like, each user is individually kicked off the PDS in reaction to some bad thing they did? Or labeling is reactive in that it labels bad stuff already posted, and each user has to pick labelers to listen to themselves?

              I’m not sure if Bluesky’s front-end defaults to using some particular labelers. I know there’s some moderation going on for you as soon as you log in, done by someone.

              But yes, each user has to choose whose moderation decisions they want to use, and they can’t rely on everyone they can see also seeing exactly the same space they themselves are seeing. But I’m not sure it’s possible or even desirable to get rid of the requirement/ability to choose your mods. I should be able to be in a community that has mods I trust, and the community chatting to itself and determining that so-and-so is a great mod who we should all listen to, and then all listening to them, sounds like a good idea to me.

              Being able to see and talk to people who aren’t in the same space I’m in might not be as good?

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            No, what leads to those attacks is politicians creating and stoking culture wars, and a media feeding in to that war because it makes them money.

            The attacks won’t magically stop if trans people just make themselves more open to being attacked. All that will happen is more of us will get hurt or die.