A lot of us experience dysphoria about a lot of things. Personally, one of my biggest points of dysphoria is my facial/body hair and masculine sounding voice.
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-Olivia (oNevia)
i had my egg crack somewhat recently when i waxed for the first time; it made me very acutely aware of how much i dreaded my body hair (among other things). ended up sending me into a rumination death spiral for about 3 days. i’ve since recovered and have even bought and wore some femme clothes (which has been awesome), but i really can’t help but feel like a man in a dress. it kinda hurts because i know that this isn’t something that i would think about another person (or be ashamed of myself if i did) but when it comes to myself it just feels like it’s more acceptable to think about what is essentially bigotry towards myself. also having to make appointments is just so ugh, but hrt sounds exciting (but uggggghhhhh)
Congrats on cracking the egg! Freshly shaved legs are just a vibe 😍. I totally feel you on the dysphoria 😭 It helps me label it: okay yeah this is major dysphoria, it sucks, let’s move on brain. It’s still freaking hard though.
Wait, are you me? Girl, know you’re not alone and please be kind to yourself ❤️
thanks for the kind words! i’m quite proud of my province’s stance on lgbtq+ issues (we even removed/are removing gendered language from our legislation!) but i was raised by a conservative family in a conservative part of the province, so i was quite bigoted (especially transphobic) for a good chunk of my life. i’ve worked on it a lot but i would not be surprised if it affects the way i view myself. i’m still not sure what my identity is, i just know that i want to be less of a guy
That’s so cool to be in a place where it’s accepted! Btw sorry for assuming your gender! I’m proud of you that you’re allowing you to discover yourself ❤️ It can be hard to let yourself feel the way you are if you have suppressed your inner self for so long because of the environment you grew up in. It takes time and that’s totally fine! ☺️
You’re further along than I am if you’re going for a full dress already! I’m on the “skirts and t-shirts” stage. Although that might just be more of a “that’s my style” kinda thing. Nerdy/offensive Graphic tees are fun 🙃
Currently wearing a “longer” skirt that goes from hips to about halfway down my calves, soooo comfy.
You got this Hun. That “man in a dress” feeling is something I think all of us transfemmes experience at some point. It’s tough because like you said, we would never think that of others, but when you’ve been told you’re a man your whole life, it’s hard to rewire that and see your true self.
My advice is to take it a day at a time, one aspect at a time.
Like you, body hair was my most dysphoric aspect and I’ve always hated it. So once my egg cracked back in October, I shaved everything off and dived into learning how to take care of my skin for the first time in my life. For a couple weeks, this was all I did transition wise but it was such a great foundation for me to build off of!
What started off with shaving off the hair that always destroyed my confidence ended up being the first time I ever did anything for my self. Especially the self care aspect. I now shower more often, use lotion, facial cleansers and even nail oil as I focus on improving my fingernail health. It’s helped give me a source of consistent euphoria (as long as I keep up on it) and gave me the confidence to move on to bigger more noticable changes like dressing femme and makeup ❤️
Try and enjoy the small moments of happiness as they come. Enjoy smelling the roses ❤️