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  • Krrygon
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    113 months ago

    It’s been ok. Last night I went to a queer friendly bar and the event of the evening was a gin tasting thing where you pay $20 and try a flight of fancy gins. I bought it with friends, and the dude doing the tasting was not a member of staff, he was a gin vendor only in for the evening. He was super bubbly and friendly to everybody before us, and explained the taste profiles of the gin and their backstories, etc. But when we went up and he asked us our names, as soon as he heard me speak he shut down immediately. We spent half an hour in awkward silence tasting gins,and he was outright rude when I asked him questions to try to kickstart a conversation. He didn’t even tell us the names of the drinks he was pouring, let alone their flavors or whatever. This has never happened to me before, and it sucked to be locked in to it. Really ruined my night, but the rest of the week was fine

    • cowboycrustation [he/him]M
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      93 months ago

      Wtf. That’s horrendous that he treated you that way. You should send a complaint to his manager because that is not acceptable behavior for a bar that claims to be queer friendly.

      • Krrygon
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        63 months ago

        Thanks cowboycrustation. Yeah despite living in a mostly conservative pocket of Washington, that was the worst experience I have had so far, so I do at least consider myself lucky. I expect there will be more stuff like that in the future as I am more openly trans, but I think I can tolerate that in the pursuit of being true to myself.

        If he was a member of staff at the bar, I absolutely would complain, but he was just a temporary guest who works for a different company, and I don’t think he’ll return. Everybody who works there has always been nice to me