Hi everyone,

This is an update regarding Keris (also known as RiikkaTheIcePrincess). Many of you already know of the situation, but if you do not, go check out her posts on this community.

TL;DR Keris is and has been in an abusive situation with their parents in rural Oklahoma. They gave her a seven day eviction notice, and now they have to leave. They are trans, neurodivergent, and have no place to go.

Keris is in desperate need of a place to stay in Minneapolis. She has gotten their ticket and is set to arrive tomorrow at 4:20pm in Minneapolis. The shelters there are night-only, and are not a good fit due to a variety of factors.

If there is ANYONE who can host Keris in Minneapolis for even a couple of days that would be a huge help. They are in a very bad spot right now and could really, really use your help. If you know someone who could host, that works too.

Thank you for your consideration.

Edit 1: if anybody also knows of any programs in Minneapolis that can help get Keris less temporary housing and/or a job that would also be very helpful.

Edit 2: Keris has found someone to stay with in about two and a half weeks. For now, they are going to try and stay in a cheap hotel. Thank you to everyone who came together to support Keris in her time of need. Please keep sending support and kind words their way. Their PayPal is LuxStellae@gmail.com for those who have asked.

I love y’all 🫂

Edit 3: It sounds like the place she was gonna stay in a couple of weeks fell through. They did make it to Minneapolis okay and are staying in a hotel. Keris still needs some kind of living arrangement (and friends).

  • EliseEnglish
    8•3 months ago

    Maybe we should make a queer or trans support community.

    Edit: I have a low key plan running with a friend on this. If it keeps growing we’ll definitely be posting.

      • @ZorsithEnglish
        5•3 months ago

        There’s been chatter about the same on a post under Transfem

        • cowboycrustation [he/him]OPMEnglish
          7•3 months ago

          Yeah, I saw it. It was a big coincidence that both of those situations happened at around the same time. The thing about the support community idea is that I hope it can gain as much momentum as this community and MTF has (ftm’s size is miniscule compared to those two…sigh). The more people, the more potential for someone in need to get help.

          I imagine that some people would rather this community stay for discussion and advice, but it was an emergency so I did what I could. This post (and their posts) on this community really did get a lot of help for Keris.

          • @ZorsithEnglish
            7•3 months ago

            Something along the lines of “trans escape” or just outright “(emergency?) resources DOT blahaj DOT zone”?

            Maybe sending links to some known good charities to see if they’ll maintain a presence there, maybe a “support helpline” bot to point people there who are posting in other communities? A continent/country/state/city wiki for “safely leaving” and “safely rebuilding”?

            • cowboycrustation [he/him]OPMEnglish
              7•3 months ago

              Yeah, those are some good ideas. People sometimes do just need to talk to other people and get reassurance, though. Also in Keris’s case a lot of the resources didn’t apply to her because they are out of the age bracket. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have mutual aid in our community in addition to other programs and resources.

              Charities are a good first option, but a lot of times their help has strings attached or it takes time to process the request. The key is having as many options as possible for people.

              • KeriKitty (They(/It))English
                4•3 months ago

                As an odd alien, I feel like perhaps another key or at least important feature could be an easier interface.

                • A dozen lists of a thousand resources is twelve thousand things to look through and process and sort into mental space but actually maybe a couple thousand or so, many duplicates, much of the material irrelevant to many.
                • As I said, much info is irrelevant to many. I find a lot of youth stuff… despite being something of an adult child myself, that stuff’s certainly not for me. It’s just more stuff to add to my processing burden, just that bit more to help overwhelm me with a forest when I need a fern.
                • It can be really hard to tell if something’s likely applicable to “me.” For instance, there’s a shelter organization here called Agate. Apparently the people there can be “rough,” possibly specifically toward trans people. They offer shared-space beds on a daily basis, assigned as people call in beginning at 10AM. They don’t seem to do stuff toward getting people off the street until someone’s been in for long enough. They do fill up, and it can be quick enough that calling in the minute they open may be necessary. All of these things are very relevant but not very visible, so someone seeking shelter has to do a bunch of footwork, spend a bunch of time and possibly spoons, and/or get someone else to help them.

                So there’s a lot to go through even for one place and it may even be harder to dig through it than to actually get help. Dunno for sure, everything I’ve got came from “love measured in dollars and cents” “family” and the wonderful critters around here, but I bet some things are easier to literally get than to get through all’ the resources for finding/getting it. Dunno if there’s any remotely practical way to give everycritter a case manager or guide or something but it does feel like navigating resources to find relevant ones is harder than finding heaps of resources

                Just ramblythoughts, on how to help critters 🤷

              • @ZorsithEnglish
                4•3 months ago

                Yeah, I felt about the same on charities. Them having a presence would be helpful though as they would be better able to determine eligibility at a glance, knowing timeframes, and communicating that effectively.

                It’s definitely a complex topic to navigate.

    • KeriKitty (They(/It))English
      3•3 months ago

      Was about to say that myself. If I make it through this and get any resources of my own I’ll be looking to do some supporting myself. Even if I can just figure out something useful about navigating this whole mess-ass process… I damn sure don’t want anycritter else having to go through all’ this crap I’m only even partway into.

      Maybe I’ll at least have some insight useful to whatever species of alien I am. Idunno whether all’ the resources are uniquely unsuited to me or I’m uniquely unsuited to them or what else, but every single thing is too vague, too specific (to somebody else, usually!), or scarier than not knowing. Don’t think I’ve seen a coherent guide of any kind. If not something unifying then a “how to start” could be good. And a place where people know how to do this could be amazing and invaluable.

      … Of course, spontaneous, desperate escapes aren’t all of the things with which people may need support 😅 I still don’t know how to provide support for anything but (some) tech, though, and this looks like it’s my thing at the moment and hopefully I’ll learn something from it that others can use.

      I’ll try to stop ramble-yapping now. Maybe I’ll go grab that bagel I’ve been wanting. I don’t actually like bagels, though, so maybe not. Gotta rush up a shower first. Hair’s too facey- waitno, wrong wordsing there. Face’s too hairy. That’s the one.