I am fine with labels, just don’t expect me to care about them. It’s not that I don’t like that they help some folks, I simply don’t care enough about any of them to be bothered.
My least favorite is ‘preferred pronoun’. Son, I won’t even remember your first name in an hor, there is no way I am remembering your pronoun. There is a reason we iuse pronouns, and its because they are readily accessible and guessable.
This is one of my favourite parts of being non-binary; it’s such a great filter for weeding out people who lack empathy.
People who immediately go “OMG that is SO COMPLICATED sorry but I can’t do that I won’t even try” when they learn that I use they/them pronouns immediately reveal to me that they’re not worth my time, and that they’ll never truly see me and respect me as I am.
I am fine with labels, just don’t expect me to care about them. It’s not that I don’t like that they help some folks, I simply don’t care enough about any of them to be bothered.
My least favorite is ‘preferred pronoun’. Son, I won’t even remember your first name in an hor, there is no way I am remembering your pronoun. There is a reason we iuse pronouns, and its because they are readily accessible and guessable.
This is one of my favourite parts of being non-binary; it’s such a great filter for weeding out people who lack empathy.
People who immediately go “OMG that is SO COMPLICATED sorry but I can’t do that I won’t even try” when they learn that I use they/them pronouns immediately reveal to me that they’re not worth my time, and that they’ll never truly see me and respect me as I am.
So you can remember peoples’ pronouns, then?
why don’t you just use “they” if you don’t know
German doesn’t have they/theeeemmm
I had hour long rants about that to friends xD luckily they are still my friends