I am having issues letting go of my family. My dad, he’s awesome. Bought me a bunch of makeup and nails polish and is just generally wonderful.
My mom and one of my brothers at least are giant thundercunts. My brother cut me out of my nephew’s life cuz 8 “is too young to be thinking of gender identity,” even though they have been saying “it’s a boy” since the ultrasound. My mom is standing up for my brothers parental rights, yet won’t even say my brother is being a dickheaded bigot. “Cuz I’m 37 and old enough to fight my own battles”
I want my mom and my brothers. I’m really sad and hurt. I have told them as such. They do not care. How do I cut them out and let them go. It’s really hard.
I’m just torturing myself every day, trying to win them over. It hurts that they don’t care. I want them in my life, but not if they are going to be filled with so much hate.
Help?
I saw in one of your other comments that it’s been two months. Do you mean you came out publicly two months ago? If so, I would say give them more time. Keep trying when you have the energy, or if you don’t have the energy that’s okay too just wait for them to come with you and deal with them as best you can.
It takes a long time for people to come around. I came out to my partner of six years and she had a really hard time with it for like six months, and then slowly over the next six months she started to come around. Now we’re stronger and happier than ever before!
Time will heal some wounds, and I found most of all, what people feared was that you would change. When they see that you’re still the same old person, just expressing yourself a little differently, then they’ll realize they had nothing to fear.