This is an admin post, intended for blahaj lemmy users. Top level posts from members of other instances will be removed.

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Edit - Hexbear announced plans to deferedate from us.

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After recent events, it feels to me that sentiment has shifted and more people are asking for defederation of hexbear than previously

I’ve been doing my best to try and mend bridges and keep us connected, as it’s my hope that we can maintain trans solidarity and work with them, despite the friction, however, ultimately, I feel that this is an issue for the blahaj lemmy community to decide, not the admins alone

So here’s what we’re going to do

We’re going to leave things as they are for a week. That will give time for things to calm down whilst we see if we can work together. After a week, I’ll put up a vote and get a feel for where the community is at in regards to our continued federation with hexbear. That poll will run for a week. If there is a strong will to defederate (a clear majority), then that’s what we will do

    • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      I’ve held my tongue in accordance to our new rules on Hexbear, but this is sickening transphobia and I have seen this levied dozens of times against trans users on Hexbear from users on Blahaj. Hexbear rightly bans people for doubting the validity of people’s genders, and would ban anyone upvoting the post as well. I believe in trans unity to the nth degree and I have worked as a volunteer at trans organizations for 10 years helping hundreds of trans people with medical access. To doubt the validity or sincerity of our trans users is beyond the pale.

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        1 year ago

        I stand with you on this, Hexbear. I don’t understand why this is the thing that people are going with, especially on a trans instance like this. Hexbear is so obviously queer and so aggressively supportive.

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        Yeah it is a bit messed up to question if people are really trans. They are if they decide they are. Questioning someone’s politics and beliefs is fine, but not who they are.

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        My issue is their antagonistic behavior that I find unnecessary. It gives off the_donald vibes in the sense that everyone acts like trolls in a circle jerky manner. I was hoping lemmy would have a better standard than Reddit where people don’t shit post all day long.

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        1 year ago

        Maybe I’m not seeing it, but what is transphobic about this post?

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            1 year ago

            Maybe something’s not rendering right in Memmy. There was no reference to anybody saying “you’re not trans” in the parent post to what brain_in_a_box was responding too. Because I didn’t know what they were referencing, I asked. They responded.

            I hope that clears it up for you.

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              1 year ago

              they were speculating that hexbear’s userbase was using pronoun tags to pretend like we’re queer friendly – we’re 1/3 trans and that was deeply offensive to all of us. it literally erases our existence.

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                1 year ago

                If that’s the case I 100% agree, that’s transphobic