Inclusion is when everyone can be who they are and together you form a community. But that is not how inclusion seems to work in today’s world. It seems more to be about ‘participation’ which is like ‘adapt to our way of life so you can join us’. I am 54, and only since the past 7 years have I sought professional help (beyond psychologists, which I have had since I was 15). And in those 7 years I have noticed a disturbing pattern of something I can only describe as victim-blaming. It’s like they say “we have methods and systems, if they don’t work; well, that’s because of you.” The system seems built around avoidance of responsibility; pushing consequences down instead of up. They keep moving the goalposts and gaslight when you confront them. I don;t know how to deal with it anymore.
If they have methods and systems that don’t suit you, then it’s the responsibility of the society to provide methods and systems that do, provided you count as a person in that society.
If they blame you for requiring (for example) wheelchair access where there is none, that disregard of the society to your personhood.
This sort of thing happens all the time, and giving the system the benefit of the doubt, it tries to expand accessibility over time. But in my experience, it doesn’t try that hard and only when more accessibility results in more profit… or less social unrest.
We know most kids don’t learn well from the lecture-lab model of teaching, but here in the states, our school districts are more interested in containing kids rather than teaching them, and even then only society-approved topics in order to mold them into obedient expendible laborers and soldiers. They’re not interested in raising children into adults who can think.
So yeah, our society isn’t even trying, and you may need to end some professional careers before our psychological sector takes you seriously.
But the problem is totally them, not you, and a system working in good faith would be able to accommodate your specific needs.