Not my note.

It’s so easy to rip people down. Pump someone’s tires. It means way more than you can imagine.

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    4 days ago

    Good men are real; I’ve met many of them. It isn’t some impossible ideal, but a process of self improvement that anyone can jump on.

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      Is it OK to 💩 on men in the meantime? (I’m a man who’s usually fine with it.)

      e.g. IDK, “men are predators” or something - really broad brush stuff that has an origin in accuracy, but is a majorly broad brush all the same. I’ve wondered if we don’t need to be more careful with those statements, as heartfelt as they may be.

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        3 days ago

        So long as it’s measured self depreciation, it’s probably fine. If you want a women centered version of this, see @femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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          Ah maybe not self deprecation, like maybe you see a story about a rapist and comment

          FUCK MEN! Teach your boys not to rape

          I guess complaining about white people can be the same thing. Special rules for criticizing oppressors; you’d only hear complaints from right wing folks.

          RE: femcelmemes: thanks, had never browsed the community itself before - tame stuff overall :)

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            I try to keep it positive there, as I’ve seen similar communities turn into spiraling pits of self hatred. Making fun of weakness is productive, but feeling ashamed is not.