I kimd of am, why are so many relationships in media strsight? We need more lgbt representation

This is dumb and I’m probably getting offended for no reason but here’s a small experience I dealt with recently

So like 30 minutes ago my grandmother wanted me to smile so she told me to think of a pretty girl and while I didn’t react at all my first thought was literally “why not pretty boys” Its silly I know.

I’m not out but I literally couldn’t be leaving anymore hints that I’m bi. Its funny how nobody noticed yet

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    It’s tiring to see so many non marginalized individuals entering a marginalized space to claim that things are fine. Learn to read the room. All further discussion about whether this is “okay given statistics” shows a failure of empathy, a place of privilege, and an ignorance of the harm you are causing. I’ve decided to leave some of these comments up because some people benefit from seeing the discussion about how they are wrong, but to anyone who is entering this thread and is not queer and the only take you have to offer is “maybe you ARE over-represented” I will start banning you now.

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      common gaywallet W

      i dont know how you have so much emotional energy to share here as much as you do, especially in the face of so much intolerance. much love.

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      to add some nuance to this, if anyone would like to listen. a cry from a cishet to the cishets.

      beehaw platforms safe spaces. within that, this is a community for queer people. coming into this discussion as someone that isn’t queer, a person needs to be aware of the nature of safe spaces. this isn’t the same as seeing a post from r/cars on the front page of reddit and adding to the discussion that trains are more convenient for you. to queer people, many of these discussions are existential in nature. this will not carry the same weight to you, because it does not impact you in the same way- if at all.

      take a moment to reflect on how irritating it is to see average people turn into experts on twitter whenever a new topic is trending. understand that in queer discussion, you are that person, but your words aren’t simply annoying, they’re harmful.

      a common response to this is “well you can’t have discussion with only people that agree with you, that’s an echo chamber!”. sure, you can put 100 men into a discussion about feminism and hear a hundred different opinions, but none of them will be a womans. there’s enough cishets discussing this, respect that this space is designed to amplify the voices of the minority.

      stay quiet, recognise that you have privilege blindspots, and say “thanks for sharing”.