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  • nimbletoMildly Interesting@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    15 days ago

    My only concern is the candles. I’m not sure i would trust strangers to be having an orgy in my house with “candles everywhere”. May not even be allowed open flame candles depending on fire code or the tenant agreement.

    Rest of it seems reasonable though-- they at least asked if it was something that could be accommodated and what the cost would be.




  • i didn’t commit your username to memory and only looked at this thread because i saw it was about ‘civility’ which was the issue from the PTB thread. It is interesting to see how communities respond to things like this so a post about civility is interesting. I don’t agree simply admitting to having seen that thread is brigading as commonly understood. Brigading to me is a focused call to action where that action is undesirable and uncivil.

    I think dismissing the other person’s comment solely because of ‘brigading’ is failing to find any legitimate point they may have. If i could give some feedback it would be that nothing we do as community leaders is infallible, and even people we disagree with can have valid points that lead to a better community.

    Best of luck again, I’ll see myself out.


  • I scrolled through all and found the PTB thread, many other threads about charlie kirk, and eventually found this thread. The PTB thread when i read it did not have any link to this thread, or any suggestion of brigading.

    I have not voted in either thread, and did not comment on PTB. I am commenting here to say that admitting having seen the PTB thread is not an admission of brigading. Both posts are visible in 'all"

    I hope your expansion of what civility is and what it is not helps the community







  • It was a carbon fiber bike that was less than 20 lbs. You could pick it up by the top tube with your pinky and balance it there. The bike with wheels and all came in around $5k. At the time i didn’t have a car and used bike to go everywhere including shopping, so i wanted to have a second “nice” bike for fun riding and i used my old bike for normal commutes.

    Fun fact but professional cycling regulations have a minimum bike weight of 6.8kg (14.99 lbs) so professional riders have even lighter bikes… but not too light!



  • I also think there’s just a difference between whether or not you find something attractive, and whether or not you think everyone needs to conform to what you find attractive or alluring. They aren’t mutually exclusive.

    So as a cishet man i can find two men kissing not attractive and i can also be an ally and accept gay people. When i say “not attractive” what i mean is the absence of attractiveness but also not unattractive. Since I’m not involved in this two men kissing scenario then i don’t have an opinion about it. They neither are or are not anything. They just are. I see my best friend kiss his boyfriend and i see love, that’s it.

    Maybe OP just needs more exposure to women kissing to get over the repulsion, and/or maybe just think about what I’ve said and internalize it. I do agree with another poster that the repulsion could just be social conditioning to be straight. But like i said you can separate what you personally find attractive and what you accept from other people





  • nimbletoWitches VS Patriarchy@lemmy.caIt wasn't your fault
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    20 days ago

    Man here. I was once a mandatory reporter so i absolutely know some rapists. Some of the cases involved men (or women) i knew.

    I do want to acknowledge that women are disproportionately the victims of sexual violence and rape, but if i could id just mention that victims of sexual violence and rape can be any gender, and the rapists can be any gender as well. I mention that since the sign kind of assumes that men won’t be victims themselves or that they wouldnt tell their friends like women.