• Nobody@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    “My bad. I didn’t realize you were a sociopath. Good luck with all that.”

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      What’s sociopathic about that? If she’s not interested she’s not interested, and many people struggle with uncomfortable social situations like being asked out by someone you aren’t attracted to. Asking a friend for help is a perfectly fine approach to that.

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        For anyone reading this who thinks they need advice on how to say no, “no thanks” is sufficient. You don’t need to involve your community in your decision not to study with someone.

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        She’s asking her friends for tips on how to mock the guy. At least that was my read. I suppose reasonable minds can differ.

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          Asking a friend for help with how to handle an uncomfortable social situation is something that actually happens lol

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              Yes, yes you fucking are, and you know how you get better and more comfortable with it? By getting advice on how to do it right and then fucking doing it. What, would you rather they just never responded? If you got issues so bad you need this kind of help, then get that kind of help so things can improve.

              Sincerely, someone who had those issues and took a lot of time, effort, and help making them better

              Sorry this was way more hostile than I thought it was going to be, it just bugs ne when people are like “if you’re like that you’re a low functioning person” and like, obviously, you’re not saying anything they don’t already know, you’re not helping things

              • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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                It’s cool. You made some valid points and shared your perspective from the opposite side of the fence. Thank you for sharing your perspective and broadening my understanding.

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          Where do you see her looking to mock him? The text is “help me reject this boy” no qualifiers. Hell we don’t see who she meant to send it to. It could’ve been her friends, but it could’ve been a parent, a sibling (possibly even a brother), a partner, anyone. Hell it could’ve been the pope, though that’s highly unlikely.

          When I was a teenager I needed advice on how to reject a boy. He was a friend and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings but it was clear my signals weren’t getting through. I’m not saying she’s definitely not malicious, but I’m also saying that assuming she’s malicious isn’t supported by anything we can see, so Hanlon’s razor should be applied.

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            “Help me reject this boy” doesn’t sound like someone looking for harmless advice. It sounds malicious and bullying. Again, reasonable minds can disagree.

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      I wonder if there’s ever been a murder where they found the victim had been forewarned of an attack, but had the killer’s number blocked and never saw it.