Doesn’t have to be a thing you bought. Just some thing you didn’t have but then once you did it expanded your scope of actions.
The first obvious example that comes to mind is a car. Plenty of drawbacks to prevalence of cars, but being able to go where I want when I want, and far away, is very transformative.
I’m interested in other examples of things that aren’t just useful, but that open new possibilities.
I had a teacher advise me to make a habit of occasionally seeking out embarrassment, to stay in the habit, and prevent being paralyzed by fear of embarrassment.
I’ve followed that advice for years, and it’s like a super power.
I’ve done so much cool shit that a previous version of myself would have been afraid to try.
I don’t even remember all the embarrassing stuff, even though there’s plenty. The cool stuff is what sticks in my memory, even though I’m prone to remembering my mistakes.
Saw a Ted talk that said the same thing. The guy over came some social anxiety by actively putting himself in an awkward situation each day (his was asking if he could get his coffee for free at the coffee shop). Once he got use to low stakes situations where people were surprised, confused or mildly judgemental (but also amused or just disinterested) it was easier to do things that actually mattered without worrying about people’s reactions. And he got a few free coffees.
Transitioning
Dance. Started dancing (taking classes) at 350lbs 4 ½ months ago, still going now at 295lbs. Everything is sooo much easier. First exercise I really liked, improves my flexibility, strength, and cardio. And I feel mad sexy doing it.
I’d highly recommend playing Dance Dance Revolution, if you’re at all interested. Very fun way to burn lots of calories. There’s an open source clone called StepMania. If you really end up enjoying it, you’re going to want to invest in some high quality metal dance pads. Worth every penny though, in my opinion.
By the way, I’m 400 pounds. I know your struggle. I’ve lost well over 100 pounds playing StepMania before. Unfortunately I’ve had some bad events put me in a bad depression, which caused me to gain it back.
By the way, I’m 400 pounds. I know your struggle. I’ve lost well over 100 pounds playing StepMania before. Unfortunately I’ve had some bad events put me in a bad depression, which caused me to gain it back.
As an arcade gamer, myself, I’ve never seen anybody who could play a DDR game like someone who put the time in as part of an exercise regiment. It’s so cool to watch. Like other game masters, but that much more impressive for the physical commitment.
When I run into an exercise gamer at the arcade, I always stick around to see what I can learn by watching. I can often spot them by their vibe - there’s a recognizable patience of someone who already committed to getting their steps in, and is just waiting for the machine to free up.
Admittedly, I usually I don’t learn much by watching, because I’m not anywhere near their league. But I have gotten some great beginner tips from the ones who hang around between sets.
Anyway, mad props. Playing those games for health tends to elevate it to a high art form. It’s crazy cool to watch at the arcade. I suppose any sport can, but of course ‘dance’ is right there in the name.
Edit: Also, sorry you’re dealing with setbacks. I hope things ease up for you.
I have an RO Afterburner that’s like 16+ years old and still works great. I love it.
I’m a crossfit guy, but I absolutely agree. Once you find an exercise you enjoy and look forward to life just seems better.
I am handicapped and in early retirement. I had a hard time going on walks, got tired fast, there was always the fear of stumbling/falling again and carrying a bag was painful using a backpack made me getting tired faster.
I bought an expensive walking helper /walker with 4 wheels (not something you sit on and drive, but walk behind), a seat and a big bag for shopping. I feel like superwoman now when I am on a walk, because I can walk longer, buy stuff and just put it on the thing and it is so easy to get even heavy stuff home and whenever I get tired and no matter where I am, I just sit down, relax, power comes back and I can keep going.
The best thing I have ever bought in my whole life.
I was told this is only for very old people and that it looks ridiculous at my age and that I would not need it by everyone, fuck them. It is pure quality of life and increases my power to over 9000! I have been more outside in the last 12 months, than in the 5 years before that because of it.
Internet. I’ve lived in rural areas most of my life and only in the last five years was able to start gaming with friends and watching unlimited video. I feel much less resentment that people don’t want to visit me and am happier getting my social needs met in person by physically going out less often (I still get out once a week ish)
It’s not a replacement for intimate relationships but any means, but I do think it can enhance them with healthy boundaries n whatnot. I went through a rough break up recently that’s had me realizing I’d like a partner that’s ok with me having space to chill with friends day to day but still making time for each other.
Generator so I have power when the power goes out. Would like solar but soooo expensive.
Just FYI you also need a battery to use solar if the power is out (in my country at least)
Literally, tyrosine and iodine, because my thyroid gland was running slow and I was feeling cold most of the year. Now my body’s idling power is higher.
The first was my bike. Totally changed life. It opened up the entire county to me, though the far end was not viable time wise.
Then my first car.
After that, I suppose it was a cell phone. Gave me the freedom to travel and stay in communication on my terms. However, part of that was caller ID by default. The freedom to ignore calls and make the decision based on who was calling without having to worry about missing an important call was big time. Since I could do this anywhere my car could reach, it was the pinnacle of freedom, with subsequent iterations only expanding the use.
After that? My cane.
After my body fucked up, and I was on a walker for a while, being able to walk steadily without the walker was freedom again. It may seem like the walker was that, but it never felt like it. I went from jogging and walking and hiking freely to crawling, literally in a second.
From crawling, a walker sure was better, but it was as much a symbol of limitations as it granted more mobility.
But the cane? That’s when I knew I would be able to have something resembling the life I had lost. It isn’t the same as it was and never will be. But the difference between having the cane and not having it is what makes it powerful.
I really thought when the cane came up you meant taking over the world one hard smack at a time
Wellll, I have done that a few times.
Back when I got off the walker and faced a cane as permanent, I went to my old dojo and got hooked up with some lessons and sparring practice to kind of work around the issues. I’m not what I used to be, but the few times I’ve run into people that thought a middle aged disabled guy was a victim, there was some smacking done lol
Experience. Learning when it’s okay not to give a fuck, and when I definitely should.
At some point you just realized everyone is “faking it till they make it”
Becoming proficient with Linux (I use NixOS, btw 🤓).
Moving to a city with a tool library. For an annual £20 fee I can borrow any of a myriad of power tools. Currently using an orbital sander for some DIY, previously borrowed a hedge trimmer for the garden, it’s freaking great.
Getting a 3D printer.
Most things I had to replace because of being broken, the thing that broke was just some plastic bullshit; now I can just replace the broken part. Not to mention the myriad of things people have made that solve problems I never even thought of until seeing them on Thingiverse and such.
Add a soldering iron and some other tools and I can make my own electronic gadgets.
I want a 3d printer so badly. I don’t have the money for it, or the set up where I currently live to have one. But I’m supposed to be moving soon, and I want to start saving for one. I’m a crafty/DIY(read: jury rig) person by nature. I love fixing shit, making shit, and creatively solving problems. If I had more money, I’m pretty much the exact target audience for a 3d printer. Lol
Man, it sounds like you’d be an awesome addition to the community! Definitely approach it on your own terms, 3d printing can be as cheap or expensive a hobby as you make it (speaking as the owner of a Thessian Enser 3).
It’s incredibly powerful (and satisfying) to be able to fix the plastic bit of something and give it a new life rather than just throwing it away.
Maker spaces and libraries are one way you could get cheaper access than having to buy your own.
3d printers are getting cheaper each year. I think elegoo neptunes are $200, maybe next year it might even drop as it only recently came out.
How do you go about replacing things, is it a lot of research? trial and error? Scanning?
I think we have places nearby where you can order something printed, but I didn’t get around to making the file itself
Kinda depends, if it’s a popular something, there’s usually a model online that someone else has been kind enough to share (generally on Printables and/ or Thingiverse). My most recent experience with that was the shift knob on my mixer cracked and fell off, a quick download, a few grams of filament, 20 minutes, a few persuading taps with a mallet, and everything was good to go.
Beyond that, it’s a bit of personal preference and a bit of you’re trying to do, something like a dial cluster in a car is going to be far more complex that something like a mounting bracket. The stuff I tend to fix/ replace tends to be fairly small, so personally, it’s a matter of sitting down with a pair of calipers to measure the object and replicate it in CAD (Autodesk got me young, so I’m on the Fusion 360 train at the moment). One of the most amazing things about 3d printers is that you can go from design to prototype extremely rapidly, which allows you to iterate the design and make it better each pass. Got a hole doesn’t quite line up, a wall that’s too long, an arm that doesn’t quite reach, etc? tweak it and try again. It’s a little bit of trial and error, but with experience it becomes more of a controlled process as you figure out what works and what doesn’t.
It’s all of the above. Sometimes it’s researching in the form of looking around on sites like printables.com or thingiverse to see if someone else has solved the problem already. Scanning is an option too, but it’s tough to get good results with DIY approaches. The barrier to entry is kinda high in terms of money or expertise. When all else fails, there’s CAD. Computer Aided Design. Make it yourself with measurements and some trial and error :)
Usually just taking the broken piece, measuring it out and replicating it. A good pair of calipers helps.
Of course if it’s common enough, you can usually just find things already engineered for your needs.
Came here to say this. Really changed my life. It’s amazing all the super-custom things I’ve designed in like an hour each for super specific applications.
Reading regurlarly, It really improved my attention time, and it definitively helps to manage my anxiety, weirdly enough.
Self-diagnosing with ADHD in my 30s. Going for an assessment soon!
I moved to a different country driven by a wanting to become worldly rather than for economic reasons.
Facing a whole new place, with a different language, different social norms and expectations and even different living conditions, like that on your own makes you massivelly more adaptable to new environments, as a later move to a different country showed as well as living for a couple of months in yet another one.
