A district judge in Wisconsin has sided with an 11-year-old trans girl over her use of the girls’ toilets and temporarily blocked school officials from preventing her access.

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      my parents angrily forbid me to do drugs or have sex and begged me not to drink to excess. Guess which activities I regularly engaged in.

      I was threatened, beaten up, choked out and tortured in school for being “gay” (actually bi), and yet my (romantic) attraction to any and all genders even preceeded my understanding of any sexuality.

      not my parents, not my fellow students, not exes, not internet strangers, not religion and not any form of media has managed to change my sexuality.

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        my parents angrily forbid me to do drugs or have sex and begged me not to drink to excess. Guess which activities I regularly engaged in

        I too was vehemently forbidden, but I managed to understand how bad drugs and excessive drinking are and felt no need to rebel by “cutting off one’s nose to spite one’s face”

        Two people can go through the same environment and have completely different outcomes

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          Sometimes people don’t do it to rebel, they just do it to enjoy themselves. Sometimes it’s self-destructive, sometimes not.

          As you say, different people do things in different ways.

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            Exactly this. Letting anything take over your life will cause harm.

            Harm reduction is a thing y’know, anything can be enjoyed with the right precautions.

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              All of the (illegal) drugs I ever used made my life better in some way. Whenever somebody tells me that they’ve never used drugs, I just feel sorry for them, because they’ve missed out on some great experiences. Of course, there are a few people with unusual brains who should avoid anything psychoactive, but I think the vast majority of people would benefit from it.

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                Autsist here with trauma, I am a prime example of someone who probably shouldnt do drugs. Alcohols have weird effects let alone anything else. Though all my friends are convinced ill eventually do peyote for some reason.

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                  I’m not saying you should or you shouldn’t, but…There have been studies that show that psilocybin mushrooms are effective in treating some forms of trauma, such as PTSD.

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                    I hope psilocybin and MDMA treatment for PTSD one day become available because it would help so many people.

                    Such a high success rate too, even if it stays controlled atleast let the people have that.

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                Every illegal drug, and many legal ones, I’ve seen used have made the users’ lives horrible as a result, and sometimes they’ve made my life horrible despite me not using them. How about instead of doing drugs you find a real solution to life’s problems?

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                  Because you shouldn’t use drugs as a solution to your problems? You don’t play games or watch TV to solve life’s problems. There are some substances that I can agree with that for sure nobody should ever be doing, but other stuff is fine in moderation if proper harm reduction is implemented.

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                  What’s to say that they’re not finding solutions? You can enjoy altered brain states without necessarily running from things. And even if you are running from something, even the most stoic person needs a numbing agent, a coping mechanism, sometimes and it’s a bit critical to judge one’s choice, as long as it’s not hurting someone else.

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                  Drugs are only a tool. Drugs aren’t going to solve your problems in the same way that a hammer isn’t going to build a house. It can help, though. And sometimes you smash your thumb or drop the hammer on your foot.

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              And, to further your point, anything can be harmful if taken to excess, no matter how seemingly harmless, or even necessary. An excess of water consumption can be deadly. Somewhere along the way, certain substances were just chosen as immoral because humans seem to feel a deep seated need to both judge others, and control others.

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            They are addictive, damaging to the body and mind, destroy your life, and are used as unhealthy coping mechanisms.

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      What planet do you live on? Do you even know any trans people?

      I know a LOT of trans people, and none of their parents were particularly happy about their choice to transition. At best they were begrudgingly supportive.

      Nothing is pushing us to transition. Quite the opposite, infact.

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      Who was making the decisions when I was a teenager that didn’t know transgender men existed, but I was still making plans to get a mastectomy and hysterectomy due to dysphoria when I was an adult?

      Essentially from the time I grew breasts and started having periods I was determined to do it, even though I didn’t have the words to explain why I wanted it and everyone I told reacted with bafflement. My parents and community were southern baptist, there aren’t many less trans supportive environments in the US. Surely if trans kids are all groomed into it I shouldn’t have been able to come up with this on my own, right?

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      There’s another saying: if you spout transphobic bullshit, you may be a redneck.

      (With apologies to redneck allies)

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      my parents literally did not let me transition despite me begging them to. you’re wrong lol.

      also (full offence) only someone who’s brain dead could possibly see a connection between those two things

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      Are the meta users already bleeding into the fediverse? Go back to meta and enjoy your anti human echo chamber.

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      Conservatives are like vegan cats, fed the wrong shit so it’s all they can regurgitate.

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      Read the WPATH Standards of Care. Decisions are made by the child, with the support and approval of the parents and a team of medical and mental health professionals.