I was assigned male at birth but have increasingly started to notice over the years that other guys don’t have a big notch on either side of their torsos like I do. It’s my pelvic bone. I would go to a doctor to see what they had to say but they’ve seen me plenty of times and said absolutely nothing about being intersex and now I live in a rural conservative area and they don’t seem to diagnose the same way in hardly anything that is a conservative third rail. I just seem to have a really wide pelvis just like a female. Everything else seems male. I am a very normal weight so it’s not fat tissue - its clearly bone. I just feel gaslit over it and have been trying to gauge perceptions people have of me in my life in order to get on with things. I hate to turn to the internet but this is driving me crazy. I need something to work with, somewhere to start.
1 or 2 in 1000 people are xxy
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klinefelter_syndrome
But even if you’re XY, hormones aren’t binary, you might just have a lot of estrogen, or it could be something that isn’t related at all to gender or hormones.
There’s a shit ton of human variation
Something to keep in mind when dumbass say “there is only two genders”.
Oddities in your bones don’t really mean much. I have a 13th pair of ribs, “people” are only supposed to have 12, but there’s a lot of variability floating around.
I sort of knew but didn’t properly understand this is my early 20s. I always thought that transitioning would be easy and I put it off, since I had a fairy femme figure… Of course then I hit 25 and out of nowhere seemingly my whole torso changed shape. Really surprisingly suddenly!
I think you might want to give these a read:
https://psmag.com/social-justice/our-bones-reveal-sex-is-not-binary
https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/01/13/pelvic-bone-unreliable-in-identifying-gender/
This isn’t to dismiss your concerns, but instead to let you know that your pelvis being one way or another, on its own, probably isn’t an indication of anything at all.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t consult a doctor to see if they can help you confirm or dispel your worries since this is clearly bothering you, but most importantly, remember - whatever the outcome, there’s nothing “wrong” with you.
Is it likely? No. Is it possible? Yes.
It’s worth getting checked out at some point though, because some intersex conditions can impact fertility
Biology isn’t binary. I would stop looking for labels and just be you.
Biology isn’t binary.
correct
I would stop looking for labels
why, when a label can not only confirm to the person themselves all of the feelings and doubts they may have been having, but also finds them a supportive community of people like them they can relate to and share experiences with?
and just be you.
correct, but can only happen by knowing who you are first, aka finding the correct label/s for yourself.
💯 💯 💯 💯 💯
Finding a label and understanding yourself after a lifetime of confusion and self hatred for not being normal is immensely satisfying.
Sure, in an essentialism way we all transcend labels since an individual is so much more, but we live in a language based society. Having a label is the best way to communicate to another human “This is my experience”.
This is the correct answer.
There is plenty of overlap in body types between men and women.
If you are thin, you may just be more aware of the bones. Unless you start putting on fat in a more female pattern I wouldn’t even consider intersex a possibility, much less a probability. But it’s YOUR body, and your worry, talk to your doctor.
Other comments aside, humans have at least 4 different kinds of pelvis shapes (Caldwell–Moloy classification). If you decide to look further into the research, we actually have no idea which pelvises are most common for any sex. Any research done has largely been “which best for woman give birth” and that’s it.
We have no data to give a proper average of what should be expected for those assigned male at birth. We have no data for those who are intersex either but worse because even many modern practices do their best to hide everything.
No idea where you live, but to give you a start:
https://isna.org/
http://www.ukia.co.uk/Best luck to you finding your answers.
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Do you mean your iliac furrows, also known as an “Adonis Belt”? Some people work hard for years to define them with workouts.
I prefer “cum gutters”, makes the heteros upseteros
People come in many shapes and sizes and your bones are still configuring themselves if you’re under 25. I wouldn’t concern yourself with stuff like this.
Although I’ve heard thoughts like these are connected with transgender stuff if that’s on your radar.
I am pretty skinny, my pelvis protrudes in the way you describe but I wouldn’t considered this a sign of intersex
I have webbed toes. Doesn’t mean anything it’s just the way you’re built.
We humans are fortunately all shapes and sizes.
Get an X-ray and compare.
It seems pretty obvious just from the outside. It sticks out like one or two inches or so on either side right at the pelvic bone. Males I’ve seen always just have a straight line from armpit to waist.
Males I’ve seen always just have a straight line from armpit to waist.
I’m a man. No we don’t. And it’s silly to think we do.
I’m afraid to ask what sort of pseudo science macho nonsense you’ve been exposed to which could have gotten you to this point…
Some men have wide hips. Some women have skinny hips. People are extremely variable and that’s a great thing.
If you really care you can get genetic tested. But if it isn’t impacting your life, you may want to ask why bother.
How many men have you seen? Like in pictures probably looks different.
Human variation means you can be a male with a natural “male” wide pelvic bone. When determining the sex of human skeletons, they use a whole array of measurements besides just the width of the pelvis and still get it wrong sometimes. Unless you have other indications or feel you might be a different gender than you present as, you have nothing to worry about.
